Thread: I feel stuck in this part of my life?

Think about what you would like to do, then figure out how to get there. You are young enough to learn a new career - and there are a lot of things you can teach yourself.

Are you working towards a BA? Could you give more details about what kind of student you were/will be?

Anyhoo, to the point: GET A JOB.

It doesn't have to be your dream job. It doesn't even have to be a job that makes sense to have.

But GET one.

It's the first stepping stone, the first way to get yourself out of a rut.

You can learn soooo many new skills, at ANY job, if you have the right attitude about it. Heck, go work in a chicken coup, as a very successful career woman once did. It'll teach you responsibility, keeping to a schedule, and forming relationships with your superiors.

Staying at home and doing nothing will only bring you down, and the longer you do it, the harder it'll be to change anything about your situation.

To be blunt, you aren't going to make any progress sitting at home and moping about. All that alone time is going to make you feel worse.

I think you should get back into school. The job market is becoming more and more competitive, not just because of the unemployment rates, but also because of the increasing competitiveness of job seekers. If you have aspirations of making a decent living later in life, it will be very tough to do so without at least a bachelor's degree.

It doesn't have to be the best school....take a full class load at a community college. Get your business degree, or get a 2 year nursing degree. Just whatever you start, finish it. If you don't...think what a colossal waste of money it will be.

Going to school will also give you the time away from your boyfriend that you need and will give you some independence from always being at mom's house.

Only you can help yourself...get out there and do something. You'll feel so much better about yourself, and about your situation in life.

Good luck.

thank you all for the advice. i know I need a change. I mean the only reason I am staying behind and at my moms house still is because my fiance is trying to finish school and make a better life for us. I've been trying to be patient but it's only bringing me down. I just love him so much and he tries so hard and is good to me. It's the reason I am staying I know I would probably if i were single find a room mate and live with them. I've always wanted to do that.I wanted to do that with my finace but doesn't. He doesn't want to live with other people. Just am trying not to do some in haste then regret later. I just think if i took some classes maybe at the y and school a couple times a week i would feel better and see what else is out there. I mean i am not mentally challanged (no offence to anyone who may be in the forum reading this) in reasonable good health I think I'm pretty looking. Just got to get out of the rut of keeping up housing and staying cooped in all day. It's making me mentally older before my time. I've just always had a dream of finding a wonderful person and getting married and starting a family. I still want that. I know in the next couple years. School isn't really my thing I barely made it in HS but... I deff need a change before i become bitter.

With the job market the way it is I think i might want to at least volunteer. I volunteer at an animal shelter which i love but i want to do MORE. Something more that involves more people. Anyone know any good place to volunteer or maybe give me some suggestions? I don't know where to go or get started doing that but i know right now it's what i want to do is volunteer.

Yes I do i love kids. I babysit out of my house for a family friend. I have been doing that since the little boy was 6 months old. He's going to be 2 this month I've been putting in lots of apps. I put alot in around october all the way through christmas last year. I am going to start again. It's just i don't hear anything within a few weeks and i lose interest in the job or forget to call. I want something i can start like NOW right away. Make myself useful. I just feel so useless.

Originally Posted by sarahlee20

Yes I do i love kids. I babysit out of my house for a family friend. I have been doing that since the little boy was 6 months old. He's going to be 2 this month I've been putting in lots of apps. I put alot in around october all the way through christmas last year. I am going to start again. It's just i don't hear anything within a few weeks and i lose interest in the job or forget to call. I want something i can start like NOW right away. Make myself useful. I just feel so useless.

I am feeling very sad and alone in my life right now. I am sitting here filling out job apps wishing i could get out of the house. I am so bored I could scream. I belong to a gym but just don't have the motivation to get out. Like i wish i had someone to go with. It hit me today when my fiance went to his friends that i am sitting here all alone. So i s tarted to cry. I don't want to be alone. I text my fried to see what their doing but I'm sure their both in school. I just feel so sad not really having a life I wish i had some job or something to do other than sit in the house. Wish I could volunteer other than at the animal shelter. I just feel so lost and sad today. I am tired of doing the same old same old. I'm tired of the computer being my LIFE.I wish a job would call and I would feel some sence of purpose by going to work everyday. I'd love to get to know more people. I'm starting to resent the fact that I never went to high school and never did things when I had the chance. As in when i was younger and still going to highschool. I do nothing but sit inside on the computer. I just feel stuck in a rut. Wishing i could get out like my fiance does. I mean I don't see why people wouldn't NOT like me. Just thinking now i wish maybe I wasn't so sheltered growing up like i was. Just looking for my place in the world. I am afraid I won't fine it ever. I want to find PEACE.