Do you all live near one another? You could ask for a cook out? I prefer time with friends and family over 'stuff', but that's just me.
I can't bring myself to actually tell someone what to buy me, I hate that about Christmas. hate, hate, hate it!
What about the stuff you were going to do this summer? Could you get things for your golf lessons? A glove maybe? I can't remember the other things you were signing up for.