does every women drink wine at home or is it just me?

**auds80** · 06-22-2010 05:06 PM

i started drinking wine about 6yrs ago i dident really like the taste it was rose but my mates were drinking it and it was cheap so i would have a few with them before a nite out
then i went traveling and when we went to oz everybody (backpackers)were drinking wine i got more in to it then tryed white and red..
then got home and never really drank it at all only if at mates house, then once at a friends she said she had wine every tuesday nite watching desperate housewives,so i thought ohh thats sounds lovely,fire on,nice and cosy and a glass of red, so from then on i started (2yrs ago) doing the same..thing is it has now gone from a bottle on tuesday to a bottle on friday (i work saturdays

) and a bottle on sat and sun nite..i dont get hangovers
my god even writing this i know it sounds awfull!! just want to know if anybody else is doing this?
thing is we have alcohol in the house (vodka,whiskey,beer) but id never touch it even if i have no wine in...so my question is do i have a problem?? ahh i think i know the answer already,but id really like to know what other people think

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-22-2010 05:19 PM

You don't have to drink "anything" under the sun, or every night of the week to be an alcoholic.. It's if you can't change that pattern, you can't go without that Tuesday night, or that Friday night "bottle" and a bottle is 5 glasses, so you lap in the luxury of being wasted to a degree.

No hangover means that your body is used to the alcohol.

Isn't a bottle of wine to thy self lonliness?

I come home from work and at 6pm, thereabouts, have a glass or two or three of wine, frequently

I have a man i my life now so I question why I need it now? He also drinks on his nights off, so we do together and he questions why? He's is happy with me, I am happy with him so why the need now?

I came to the conclusion that it was work. He hates his job. I have been under so much stress, re-building my business to survive and in that, our lives are still not complete, not happy, there is a missing link...

So, this weekend we are going away, and we are going out both nights, so the wine will flow, especially as I've ordered a limo with Champagne for his birthday to drive around for an hour before we reach the designated restaurant

But, over that weekend, I am giving up smoking ghaaa. Because that's also another vise and they go hand in hand. And, when I return, I'm not going to have that glass of wine because, if I focus on continuing the way I am in business, then I am going to be a happy girl... I don't need to feel tired, all day, I need to feel alive, happy and free... And, my SO needs to sell his share of his business and get into mine

So, point being, your missing something and this is consoling you and you have to change that pattern....

**auds80** · 06-22-2010 05:39 PM

your right i only drank when out pub or club,then i started my own business in 07 and its from then,and yes your right im a bit lonely i have a partner..fiance 10yrs but he works alot he is away most evenings that started around the same time as i went out on my own in business..so iv got to make some changes... thanx for posting and i hope all works out for you x

**LanaBear** · 06-22-2010 05:45 PM

I think it depends on your tolerance and why you drink... Are you drinking to escape something or because something is wrong? Are you drinking because you just enjoy a glass or two of wine after work? Can you do without, does it bother you to do without? Are you hiding it? Do you feel guilty doing it?

I don't drink, I'll have a margarita every once in a blue moon. I have a lot of addiction in my family, so I'd rather not even go down that road. Hubby, he'll have 3-4 beers a night, it doesn't effect him in the slightest and it doesn't bother me, if it did, he would stop. My sister drank over a fifth of vodka on a daily basis and last I knew has been in, um, 13 or so different rehabs.

So, I think it depends on what that drink means to you.

**auds80** · 06-22-2010 05:52 PM

i do enjoy it at the time but some mornings i wake up feeling guilty,
i think thats whats bothered me most.. honestly!! i think im so aware that i could be addicted to it that i feel bad in the morning but then come the evening again im grand...no i think i know what i have to do is just test myself iv never let myself feel the need..iv just wanted it and got it!

**Amber** · 06-22-2010 06:46 PM

I drink wine at home. I prefer red. Depends on the week, how many nights I will drink. But when I do, I just have a half of a glass or a glass of wine. No more. There is also vodka in the house for martinis.

I use to do that every Saturday night but now that is only once in a while on a weekend night. Instead I might go out and have one.

**Mes T** · 06-22-2010 06:50 PM

My boyfriend and I sometimes drink wine at home, in the same way that we sometimes drink tea or coffee...

**Amber** · 06-22-2010 06:58 PM

Actually, i take that back. Sometimes I do have more than one glass at home. But so far that has only been a few times and it is to get myself to relax. Need that before I pull out the toys.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 06-23-2010 04:35 AM

Do you work long hours? Or, from home? Be careful that you stay focused... on your business. I get up at 6am, unless I finish work like now, friggen 8pm

And, I know my energy levels aren't as great, yet when I talk, I can talk the talk and walk the walk and succeed. But, I know sometimes, I am tired and could have done more with the hours I put in, which is lots, and lots, then there's here.. So, that means business can suffer...

It's amazing that you have your own business be proud.. Use that to focus on why you should do it every other night, for instance..

I also think the lonliness is a part of it, whilst I now have a partner, I was on my own for 3 years. And, he's a Chef

So he works a few days before I can see him sometimes...

Sooooo... Yessum.. You have to start goal planning for your business and watch the changes and get excited, then go shopping and buy yourself something to feel good about it. Check what DVD's you don't bother seeing, or a TV show you should lay about and watch without the Computer or a glass of wine, a bath, with candles. Painting your nails.

Don't try to do it all at once, it won't work.. Do it gradually with a plan...

It will work for US... Mine more so is my ex who tormented me and I had no choice as I couldn't fathom coming home after hours of work, cooking for him, feeding the dogs, watering the gardens, cleaning the house all on top whilst he sat watching car racing and waited for me to do it all

Something I have to realise is OVER.. and I am more important than what he changed me to be..

And, I do take days off, it isn't an addiction. Smoking is

**auds80** · 06-23-2010 04:43 AM

thanx cw,i agree with you on smoking...lol! you sound like your happy now thats great!
im going to start from today,i know its just a bad habit and boredom,just got to keep the mind busy
have a great day or nite depending on the time..lol x (its morning here)