Is it ok that I can't get rid of my Old Engagment Ring?

**Little** · 07-20-2010 06:10 PM

Since he gave it to you again as a momento, I would suggest against selling it for any amount - pawning, ebay, craigslist, etc. Unless you want to give him the money (only fair, since he paid for it in the first place.) Donating sounds like a lovely idea if you decide to let it go. Somebody out there is ready to be married but might be holding off for lack of funds ... your ring gets a new life in a new love and becomes a brand-new keepsake.
But otherwise, I agree with HD - as other men become significant to you, it would seem off-putting that you are still so attached and focused on an ex-fiance's ring. If you can't let it go, it should be put away with other mementos like it.

**Mes T** · 07-20-2010 07:45 PM

I agree with the others, let it go.

I'm willing to bet you'll feel like a weight being lifted off your shoulders, one you didn't even realized you carried.

How would you feel if your man couldn't get rid of that something-or-other that his ex gave him, that was very important in their relationship at the time?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-21-2010 03:19 AM

Memories are okay...

It's okay to remember your first love.. It's okay to feel great about that person as long as you no longer have any love at all for them, have actually let go.

Ask yourself, have you? Or, secretly you two were great and you wish it had worked out, in which case, be careful.

So as memories are okay, you don't need the ring... The physical...

It would be bad luck in my opinion to wear it in any fashion. I have my engagement ring and whilst the three diamonds are worth alot, and I could re-design it, I don't need bad luck.

I love my partner and so, it has to go. And, this is what I suggest to you as well... New life, means no memories other than what your mind allows in the right fashion.

CW

**stressed** · 07-22-2010 06:14 AM

Plus, you still have contact with him and every time you look at the ring you remember the good memories. Only the good ones, not those that made you break up. You still have a connection with this man, you still talk, you still bring up old memories in your head. Is this really worth it?

As the others said, would you feel comfortable if your partner looked at his old ring and remembered the good times he had with his ex? It's one thing to have good memories and another to keep something physical. What that ring stood for does not exist anymore. It was there to show the love and commitment you two once had but you don't anymore. Therefore its value is only financial, not emotional. If you are so attached to it then it shows you are attached to what it stood for, that you wish it had a good end. By not having it around you show that you have moved on. Keeping it only tells otherwise.