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What time should my wife and i be over.
Just enjoy sex!
I've read a lot of posts (added some of my own). Everything from my bf wants anal/wants me swallow and I don't want to. Am I too small? Am I too big? Granted some of these may be serious problems but I think the key to solving most of these is communication. Sit down on the couch, pop open a bottle of wine and lets just talk about sex. Our likes, our dislikes and lets just come to some understandings. You are Not putting it in my (edit) Your size is fine get over it! Etc. -Lets all just be glad we are having some sex. After all sex is Awesome. Let's stop over analyzing every little thing and just have some fun.....who's with me? ;-)
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Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 07-21-2010 at 03:47 PM.
I am!
What time should my wife and i be over.
I agree, I have a few friends that complain that their boyfriends only get them off once every 4 times or whatever the ratio is... but they would be upset if their boyfriend didn't at least try those other 3 times.
J Rod, that's a good idea at the beginning of relationships, to communicate your likes, dislikes, boundries.
Communication is not " your not putting that in ", though.. or " get over it".... Communication is about, expressing... speaking... compromising... and boundries you may have, it's about being happy with the person what they have isn't the issue, as love is there pertaining to size.
In my opinion, people should keep their sex lives to themselves, discuss with strangers if they are wanting to vent, or seek advice, but not to talk about their sex lives to their friends... about their partner.
The whole purpose of discussing your desires, is to ascertain whether or not you are sexually compatible, because if there is no compromise, from that communication, then there is no compatibility and no amount of conversation over wine will change that.
On a last note, these types of comments, questions are not what you'd ask your Doctor, therefore must be posted in the Lounge so that the Moderators who are busy beating spam don't have to constantly move them... with thanks.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I agree with CW, talking about practical issues over a bottle of wine and just talking about sex is not exactly the way to go.
Communication is more than that and most times sexual issues cannot be solved with a single discussion. If your partner feels his size is too small it can take years for him to realize that it is enough for you or that you are happy with it. If you do not want to swallow and your SO has an obsession about swallowing then his fantasy won't go away if he says "it's not that important" during a discussion. Just look at the Sex board and you'll see how many things people don't want to do for their SO, or how many give more than what they receive. It's not that they haven't discussed it, but they have different approaches, compatibility etc. Many times people compromise because they love each other, some have to live with the fact they will never have anal sex (for example), others with the knowledge that their SO is not as affectionate as they'd like them to be. Compromising is important in every relationship as long as it happens both ways. Communication, respect, trust, love, are necessary and through discussion and even little every-day gestures one can see if they are there or not. Sex is a wonderful thing, but when you don't approach it at the same level as your partner does then it can affect love. It's not an easy subject to talk about, there are many occasions of partners not wanting to talk about it at all, and if something is said in the wrong way then it can hurt for months/years.
I've only discussed sexual issues with a very close friend of mine, much older than me, who I know she could advise me as a responsible friend/mother even. I'd definitely not talk about it with friends of my age. Bragging/complaining to friends about your own sex life serves no purpose, but it does help if you ask for help in a serious manner and only people you are very close to and know they can advise you. Of course, anonymous boards help too, but as long as people communicate their problems to the right people it can help them. It's what therapy is after all, talking about your problems to a stranger you pay to be listened to.
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