urgh! I give up

**shweedart** · 07-27-2010 01:14 PM

Am I or am I not wrong...to not answer the home phone whilst eating my dinner?
pretty sure I'm not. Especially when its 100% not for me!

My mum has been sla*ging me off and shouting at me all evening now because I didn't answer the phone when her friend rang...sometimes I'm pretty sure its the parents with the attitude problem. And I wouldn't mind so much if she was a compulsive liar, so she exaggerates everything times a million and makes me out to be a nightmare!
EXCUUUSEEE ME FOR KEEPING MYSELF TO MYSELF

**shweedart** · 07-27-2010 01:15 PM

AND! It wasn't an important call! they just chit chatted!
GRRRR

**sourpuss** · 07-27-2010 03:02 PM

Why didn't your mom just get up and answer the phone?

**shweedart** · 07-27-2010 07:10 PM

she'd JUST started having her hair dyed...I could see the problem if she didn't have hair less then 3 inches long! and didn't have a tiny blob of dye...but, she does and she did.
Telephones do not take pride of place when it comes to my dinner

**sourpuss** · 07-27-2010 10:20 PM

So you're supposed to drop what you're doing, run and grab the phone and take it to her while she gets her hair dyed?! Yeah, that's a bit excessive but not worth fighting over that's for sure. Just know that she's like that, you're not going to change who she is and just let it go. Chose your battles.

**jns** · 07-27-2010 11:59 PM

I many times don't answer the phone if it rings while I am eating. Sometimes people complain, but I don't back down. I am not a slave to my phone. Of course, I can set the rules since it is my house. I also don't interrupt conversations with someone in front of me for someone unknown on the phone, except by permission.

**stressed** · 07-29-2010 04:27 AM

I don't answer to texts or calls when I'm eating, or when I'm talking with someone. If it is an important call then the person can call again and if it is a text then it means that it's nothing urgent as otherwise the person would have called instead. I never understood the idea behind rushing to answer a phone call, people can always call again.

My SO is the opposite, stops whatever he's doing to answer the phone or a text, whether we are eating, or he's showering, or some times even during sex. It annoys me, because it's never about anything important, especially when his friends text him during dinner and we eat while he keeps sending texts back and forth. I told him about it once (he got mad) and he said it would be rude not to answer/reply and another time he said that he rushes to check texts/calls because he's curious.

**WildChild** · 07-29-2010 07:41 AM

I was raised with the rule that phone comes second to a mealtime or to a person you are in a conversation with and that was in the days when there were no answering systems or caller ID. Now you can know who called so there is even less reason to pick up.

**pretzel** · 07-29-2010 07:50 AM

Well, I don't text so I don't have to worry about that,

I'll look to see who calls, if it's not a family member, they can leave a message. If it is a family member, I'll answer it and if it's not a life or death situation, I tell them we're having dinner and I'll call them back.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 07-29-2010 08:10 AM

Neh.....I'd suggest her to invest in an answering machine, or purchase one for her and tell her that if her friends calls are that important, they'll leave a message. You shouldn't have to stop your dinner to answer the phone. Unless of course she says "Hey Shweeeedy, so and so's supposed to call and it's super important, so if you hear a ring and I am not around to answer please get it".

Blow it off. That's what I'd do.