negotiated infidelity, would you...?
[FONT="Comic Sans MS"]There was a report on cnn about a female writer with a psychology degree that published a book on the plus's of allowing one's SO to stray with other women. To me it seemed a bit one sided in the approach and definition. She does state that it does not have to be a one way street but... To me at least, it is another attempt to declare "Its a MANS world" and we are here for there pleasure... here are a few quotes from her interview....
[/FONT]Men need to get their rocks off," says Hill. "If a woman crosses her legs for any length of time and doesn't arrange some sort of alternative for her man, he is going to cheat on her."
By alternatives, Hill is referring to her idea of "negotiated infidelity." That shouldn't be confused with an open relationship, which to Hill "has no rules." Nor does it imply that it's necessary that a wife allow her husband to hop into bed with whomever he chooses -- unless of course she's OK with that. Hill says negotiated infidelity could mean hubby makes a trip to the local strip club for the occasional lap dance or updates his porn collection."I think that cheating men are normal," says Hill. "Monogamous men are heroes. Monogamy does have a place in relationships, but not on the long-term. Men are hard-wired to betray women on the long-term."I am curious as to what the LADIES here have to say on the subject...????Would you agree to something like this, and if so, would you partake as well..? What, if anything do you find positive within this idea..? That said, what, if any negatives do you find..?Hill's memoir, "Sugarbabe" details her yearlong adventure with a series of so-called "sugar daddies." The book sold 24,000 copies in her native Australian, according to her publisher, and has just been released in the United States. Holly Hill is a pen name.
Again with the excuses ............ hard wired to (insert whatever form of bad behavior). E X C U S E !!
My answer of course is NO. If my husband, or any other man or woman feels the need to jump from partner to partner then he/she shouldn't be in a committed relationship.
There is a method to my madness ........ I just haven't found it yet.
I should add this info. as well..
Hill, who was 39 at the time, posted an ad online announcing her search for a sugar daddy, someone who would pay her $1,000 a week in exchange for her company, cooking, conversation, massages and, when they desired it, sex. She says the ad attracted 11,000 responses.
At the time, Hill says she saw a distinct difference between what she was doing and prostitution.
"I thought that because I was a 24/7 exclusive mistress that I wasn't part of the world's oldest profession, but with hindsight I was, because what I was doing ... I was charging men for services, part of which included sex," says Hill.
However, she adds, any married woman who no longer loves her husband but continues to have sex with him to retain the comforts of being married could also be considered part of that oldest profession.
Your added comments of her's explains a lot about her way of thinking.
There is a method to my madness ........ I just haven't found it yet.
Originally Posted by Olympia
It was written in Australian?"Hill's memoir, "Sugarbabe" details her yearlong adventure with a series of so-called "sugar daddies." The book sold 24,000 copies in her native Australian, according to her publisher,...
Wonder who they got to translate it: CW maybe?
lol
Texasred,
I noticed that as well.. I believe that to be a typo.
The more i read, IMO, it seemed more "POP" psychology.
Crock of .
Women need to get their "rocks" off too. I'm climbing the walls and getting rather short tempered and cranky going without sex.
It is total Bull Pucky as we say in the west that men are hard wired to cheat. No more so than are women. She's a prostitute who's got a spin to sell her book, not the first, surely not the last either but promoting these stereotypes does no one any good.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
I agree with WC... Complete and utter Bull Pucky to put it lightly.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
Reminds me of a sci-fi scenario. Women "own" their men and can "rent them out". Women walk six paces in front of a man in public so anyone will know "who' they have to deal with to rent his 'services". Reversal of some ancient social customs......can't see it happening.
HAHAHAHA.. poewwwws tongue outIt was written in Australian?
Wonder who they got to translate it: CW maybe?
lol
Pftt. She's justifying that she was what Australian's call an "Escort".. which is a higher version of a Prostitute.. How can she make the above statement otherwise? Non-considered. A married woman whom doesn't love her husband anymore but has sex, doesn't mean she is retaining the comforts, it can also mean she is retaining the marriage, she believes in forever, she is trying and/or to keep the family together, children...However, she adds, any married woman who no longer loves her husband but continues to have sex with him to retain the comforts of being married could also be considered part of that oldest profession.
She should be reading Allan Pease - books. It's all about constant communication, knowing boundries, addressing problems, working hard, just like a job... Then there will always be a "long term".. as the couple are not going to turn into friends, with no benefits.. And, in addition isn't it about Morals? Men with morals, who love, are never going to stray.. And, this applies for women as well... Women betray men, as they don't care, have no morals... and don't hold passion in their lives, they just live."I think that cheating men are normal," says Hill. "Monogamous men are heroes. Monogamy does have a place in relationships, but not on the long-term. Men are hard-wired to betray women on the long-term."
I think this woman had "too many" dates so to speak
CW
Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 08-17-2010 at 04:41 PM.
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