Ladies...Men wanna know. Here's your chance to let us in

**JRod** · 08-16-2010 03:08 PM

Now be honest. Rank the following in order of importance when selecting a partner. Money, power, good looking, large (or at least average size) penis, satifying sex life, athletic body, sense of humor, Spiritual.

**ItsASecret** · 08-16-2010 03:20 PM

Humor - flat out, a man can be boring if he is not able to make a girl laugh.

Spiritual - I am not spiritual in any way shape or form so I would prefer that a guy I was looking to be with was also of the non-spiritual type.

Sex Life - I like sex and I would hope he does too.

Body - A toned body is fine, a ripped one no thanks. I am more concerned about a man who is conscientious of his health and therefore his body.

Money - I would want a man who can pay half the bills. There will be no free rides.

Penis - Average is fine, not looking for a porn production grade one though.

Power - It is fine if he is someone's boss.

**sourpuss** · 08-16-2010 05:22 PM

Humor - If you aren't funny, can't take a joke, rarely laugh or make me laugh....don't even bother

Athletic Body - in that I mean, athletic in general, not in a vanity, gym body type way. Basically it translates to lifestyle for me. If you look like all you do is sit at home and play video games...again, don't bother. But if you're in shape because you spend your evenings and weekends hiking, skiing, climbing, kayaking etc, then that's a good thing.

satisfying sex life - we have to be on the same page, or at least willing to compromise to please one another

spiritual - gotta be kind and compassionate person. Call it whatever you will but that's spirituality to me.

money - money has never been important to me (probably because I've never had any) but he has to have a work ethic and not blow what money he does have on worthless

penis - average is fine

power - not sure what you mean by that, but power as far as work or politics, etc - not important

**eleni** · 08-16-2010 08:37 PM

humor and spirtuality are first, they are definitely the most important because it hints at a personality that you would want to get to know.

i guess looks are next - not classically good looking, but interesting.

money is not actually that important, as long as im not made to pay for everything - im not really fussed.

the rest of it is nothing in the grand scheme of things. all equally unimportant.

**BabyGirl** · 08-16-2010 09:40 PM

Hello JRod

I just noticed you are asking questions about how or what most women feel is or is not important in relationships.

You ask alot of Good, but General questions. ( in both threads).
Mentioning , looks, money, personality, sexual or sensual preferences and penis size ..

We can and do welcome men here, some are regulars that I have seen since I joined in May.
And from what I have seen & read all of the Males are just as good or Honest about their Advice

Since you are asking " General " questions from us Women.. I'd like to ask you the same questons..

Let's see if you are willing to answer the same Polls and Questions you are asking us ? *** Umm except for the penis size , unless it pertains to your sexual satisfaction ***

**WildChild** · 08-16-2010 10:10 PM

This is tough to answer because it really needs a balance. Sex is really important to me, I've had too many years and relationships where it just wasn't good or vanished. But good sex, I think, requires a superior level of connection, communication, spirituality, playfullness and skill. As I get older I know I can't expect a man (I prefer someone within 10 yrs of my age) to perform like a 20 yr old, so skill and willingness to explore and learn is important.

General good health and an active lifestyle are important. Lack of money has been a regular feature in my life, I've had to start over financially at 50, it would be nice to have a man in my life that I could work with and build something to give us financial security together.

If by power you mean, holds a posistion of authority, that's not much of a concern compared to how well he conducts himself and how he treats others. My experience has been that men without a good sense of humor can be down right scary (think of those prodestant reformers or inquisistionists - bet they didn't have much sense of humor).

Penis size really doesn't enter the equation. I've had the full spectrum and it's pretty much a non issue.

**kristalyn_04** · 08-16-2010 11:18 PM

To be honest with you JRod, you can't really generalize what women like and don't like. Everyone is different, and you'll find what is important to one woman may not be what's important to another. Just like how guys have different preferences on what they like and don't like, so do women. You will find that most on this forum aren't the shallow type to favor looks or penis size over personality, values, and emotional connection. That's definitely what I favor over anything else. Are you self-conscious or concerned with how women see you? Is that why you're asking these questions? Just curious... and if so then we are all here to help if you feel like talking about it.

**Darling** · 08-16-2010 11:35 PM

Money, power, good looking, large (or at least average size) penis, satifying sex life, athletic body, sense of humor, Spiritual.

Well money can come and go --
Looks can be misleading --
Penis and sex life, as long as he can rock your world --
Bodies change from all shapes and sizes
Sense of humor is a must, everything else can change and that sense of humor will keep you laughing!
Well you have to believe in something?!

**DiamondsOne** · 08-17-2010 05:33 AM

I think a guy just strikes you as the right person. I've never assessed guys in such an objective way. But as you asked, I would say a guy who makes me laugh, warm/sensitive looking and a trim (not muscular) bod is nice. Money doesn't come into it, although he should have an income. Spiritual..... well a bit I suppose. Penis size is never a criteria, you accept the whole package as it is (no pun intended).

**Hopeless Dork** · 08-17-2010 09:40 AM

Attractive (Its what is noticed first) - There are some characteristics that are attractive me, and they are found in various types of guys and its not all brad pitt types at all. When I say attractive, it could be something about the eyes, a guys haircut, the way he walks or carries himself... something that attracts me. So when I say attractive I mean that very vaguely, but that something drawing me in about the appearance of a guy is what starts the attraction.

Sense of humour (Its what holds my interest)- They don't have to be a comedian, but if they can laugh at themself, If they can understand and relate to sillyness and occasional sarcasm... someone that isn't over serious.

Intelligence - I put this under sense of humour on the list because I think a sense of humour is one of the greatest indicators of a higher level of intelligence anyway. A man who reads books, plays strategic video games, can retain and relay information etc.

Sexuality - I put this under intelligence because sex with a smart guy has a good chance of being good anyway

I don't mean by sexuality anything related to penis size or frequency... I mean someone that is open minded and considerate, someone that cares about my pleasure and finding what gets me there.

Affectionate - Someone that is not afraid of a little PDA, someone that will smother me in kisses and hugs at home and in public, that has no hang ups about laying close and snuggling, holding hands, that I can walk up to and smack on the butt or just grab his junk whenever I want lol.. (respectful situations only for that, of course) but that actually likes touching and being touched, sexually and non-sexually.

Honesty, Loyalty, Respect and Consideration - I put these under all the others, though its the most important thing... as in I won't stay in a relationship without these attributes. However, I wouldnt even consider starting a relationship without the above attributes so i guess this would be the proper place for it.