Thread: Stop Faking! Stop Faking!

I don't think I've ever faked it . . .
Although we do have a problem with this right now ... and have for a while

I think that the main reason women fake it, really is not to hurt the man's feelings. Because the woman will know if it's going to happen or not, and when she knows that it's just not gonna happen, it's better to fake it rather than tell the man "It's no good, I'm not gonna come". That can and does really hurt a man's feelings and self esteem. although he might not say it, he'll more than likely put himself down thinking that he done something wrong or he wasn't good enough, and if the woman tries to explain that it just wasn't happening for her and that it wasn't that he done anything wrong, this will be assumed as she's probably lying now to make him feel better.
I admit I have faked it a few times, but simply because I didn't want to hurt his feelings or have him thinking he couldn't satisfy me. It was all in his best interest.

I only fake it if I'm to tired and want to get it over with, if my head is not into sex i won't be able to cum for him, so I'll fake it, that way he feels he's satisfied me.. It's really something I do for him, not myself..

I dunno J-Rod, How would you feel if your gf had her orgasm, said wheww... that was so good honey I'm tired, lets stop, I'll getcha next time, k? What if it happened so often she didn't even have to say it, that it was just implied that once she gets her orgasm she's going to bed, and you're ... just, yeah, next time , babe. I think if the woman isn't aroused sex shouldn't even be happening, she could give oral or manual to please her partner if its in her nature to do so, but if shes not wanting to come, penetrative sex should probably be off the menu. If she's aroused and you happen to come first, why does it have to stop with your orgasm?

I know if I didn't come during sex my boyfriend will be there for me in other ways so that I can finish properly. If a guy is one of those guys that snores the second he orgasms then why not just get your lady off first, then sex and if she gets in another or another then yay, score. If not, at least she got her one in. I know when my boyfriend is tired he will sometimes please me first that way if I am slow to get there during sex at least I got mine already and we can both just snuggle up after he comes.

But 95% of the time I orgasm with his penis in me whether I came previously or not, and if I don't come, I don't fake it... I just keep grinding on his body til he gets me there in other ways If I lose my focus during sex and can't get there, I don't fake it...instead I just do things and say things that enourage him to let go and after sex instead of grinding on him or hijacking his fingers I just snuggle up next to him and he knows I'm tired.

We simeltaneously orgasm OFTEN, crazy often... our bodies are very in tune. I've never had that happen with another man and it happens FREQUENTLY with my guy.. I have no idea how or why. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I'm one of those alarmist orgasmers, I give the 10 second warning when I'm about to "go" if he's been holding back maybe he just lets go right then, so that could be it.... who knows, but it is amazing

I don't fake orgasms with him, but I have in the past with previous lovers back when I didn't enjoy sex, wanted to get it over with and didn't really have intimacy with the person.. at least not on an emotional level.

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

I dunno J-Rod, How would you feel if your gf had her orgasm, said wheww... that was so good honey I'm tired, lets stop, I'll getcha next time, k? What if it happened so often she didn't even have to say it, that it was just implied that once she gets her orgasm she's going to bed, and you're ... just, yeah, next time , babe. I think if the woman isn't aroused sex shouldn't even be happening, she could give oral or manual to please her partner if its in her nature to do so, but if shes not wanting to come, penetrative sex should probably be off the menu. If she's aroused and you happen to come first, why does it have to stop with your orgasm?

I'm sorry, where exactly did I imply that this is what I was doing or that I did not offer up to do what I had to do in order to satisfy my gf? The fact is sometimes she just isn't going to. She's made up her mind. For whatever reason. I offer to pleasure her but she'll just say "no it's ok, you go ahead". Now this is only about 20% of the time. So since that in my eyes doesn't make it a problem, I'm cool with it.

-Furthermore, again you ladies are for the most part saying that you do this to spare our feelings. To make us feel like you satisfy us. Well I guess it's JUST ME, because no males have chimed in to back me up, but I don't want or need this. Don't get me wrong. I DO hear what you are saying and yes our egos are fragile and I suppose it's different in everyones case but like I said before, it happens 80% of the time with my last 2 LTR so the need to fake just wasn't necessary. If you are needing to fake more than 20% (or whatever number you think is good) then you have other issues that need to be addressed. -What you all are saying is that you lie to your partner to make him feel good. There are times in a relationship when I suppose this is ok. For the occasional questions such as...."do you think I put too much salt in the pasta today dear?" or "do you like my hair this way tonight babe?" In those type of instances it would be ok. They are more harmless and less frequent. But to have to lie to your partner about whether or not he satisfied you. Well that just sucks in my book haha. -Look, I know women have been doing this since the dawn of time and Im definitely not gonna change anything here, but TRY to see what I'm saying please!