Why your shorts SOOO short??

**JRod** · 11-02-2010 09:56 AM

If you are wearing clothes that OBVIOUSLY and I mean you KNOW that you're showing off your assets, whether it be the shortest tightest shorts/skirt or the lowest cut, most cleavage showing top...do you WANT to be complimented (tastefully of course) or do you just want us to notice but then look away and keep our mouths shut? This is a tough one ladies. I'm inclined to talk to you and probably slip in a compliment but on the flip don't want to give off the wrong impression or get slapped. What to do? What to do?

**Agony_Aunt** · 11-02-2010 10:07 AM

Jrod, you are coming up with some very good questions!

Women who dress up like that, are comfortable and confident with their bodies, and yes they want to show it off and get noticed!
And getting a compliment really makes the effort of looking so good really worth it. But I suppose you have to be careful in how you compliment them or what you say in order to avoid getting slapped or giving the wrong impression.
So if a woman is wearing a really short skirt and showing off her legs or showing off her cleavage with a low cut top.
Don't say something that will give them the impression that you are only looking at their legs or chest.
Give them a look from head to toe, and say "Wow, you look fantastic". That will work better than "You have lovely legs" or "You have a great set of boobs". Lol

**ItsASecret** · 11-02-2010 11:22 AM

They are doing it for the attention, so they are obviously wanting the gawks and potential remarks. Here for example, I would love for a girl to explain why in -30C (-22F) weather she is wearing a pair of barely there daisy dukes and heels...seriously they are here at school I do not understand it. Something like that she is clearly looking for some sort of 'look at me I want attention' approval of her looks. If they did not want it then they would be putting on clothes that resemble the rest of the people around. Sometimes women do not intend to become 'eye hump' material though. They can be wearing a knee length black work skirt which happens to be tight because they make them that way and men will stand there eyes bulging. Sure the skirt can be sexy pressed up tightly against the skin but I doubt her intent is to garner the attraction of possible creepers, it is likely to be and look professional.

**Hopeless Dork** · 11-02-2010 12:38 PM

We hear so much about men being 'visual creatures'... a lot of women have the opposite need/desire to be the object of that visual stimulation. To be the center of attention... why do you think there is NO shortage of women willing to take it off for a girls gone wild camera, or to send their bf topless pics, or to bend over in their profile pic on myspace etc... alot of women crave being an object of desire. As much as we complain about objectification, it is women that objectify ourselves most of the time. I'm guilty of it sometimes. When I am feeling bad about myself sometimes it does make me feel better to be noticed. And I know wearing sweatpants and a hoody gets me way less attention than something sexy.

I do NOT understand the girls that wear shorts with their cheeks hanging out then curse out men for looking them... I think they are being rediculous. Women are taught their powers over men when it comes to that stuff very very early on. When I put on something thats a little boom boom boom... i know good and well I'm going to get some attention and that some of it is going to come from guys I don't want it from... I'm not going to roll my eyes at them for noticing.

I think some girls dress sexy for that man in their life, i know i do... they want to be the one that gets his attention, not the girl at the next table. But in dressing for HIS attention, you might gain others as well and thats par for the course... nothing to get upset about.

But I think some guys get very confused when they see a woman dressed sexy and assume its for them, like hey you wouldn't dress that way if you didn't want me, or didn't want me to look! No, not everywoman dressed sexy is out to snag a man, some are dressing sexy FOR their man and you just get to reap the benefits of that

Glancing and smiling is always okay, a little polite compliment, always okay... staring , ogling, following someone out to their car, making lewd remarks... never okay.

**Cheese5318** · 11-16-2010 06:12 AM

Hopeless Dork, you said it well. Really the only way to keep other guys from staring and ogling you would be to keep your sexy styles between you and your man at home, the backyard, hotel room, etc. But this wouldn't be too fun! As a guy, I clearly get it that a woman wants to dress sexy for her man....but, why do her cheeks have to be falling out of her shorts, or her boobs out of her top to get noticed? I'm telling you, sometimes a hint of cleavage can do the trick just as much as near exposure of boobs and butts. Leaving something to the imagination is sexy too!

**pretzel** · 11-16-2010 06:59 AM

Oh you youngins' obviously don't remember the '70s

**WildChild** · 11-16-2010 07:26 AM

Remember back in our youth, hot pants?
And what were the other called? The little matching bloomers that went under a barely cover your bottom hemline? Sizzlers.

LOL I think they had a lot to do with our being successful in getting the dress code changed to allow girls to wear pants to school.

Of course many of us went braless. You can do that comfortably when you aren't dedicated to getting artificial monster boobs. Those little halter tops that we made ourselves usually. We made our own bell bottoms sometimes too by stitching in a triangle of fabric. I don't recall really thinking of any of it as being sexy. We weren't so conscious of that then. It was being natural and comfortable.

**WildChild** · 11-16-2010 07:31 AM

But back then there were probably 4 kids in the entire student population who were overweight and I think in many ways we were more comfortable in our skin and bodies.

**pretzel** · 11-16-2010 07:37 AM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Remember back in our youth, hot pants?
And what were the other called? The little matching bloomers that went under a barely cover your bottom hemline? Sizzlers.

LOL I think they had a lot to do with our being successful in getting the dress code changed to allow girls to wear pants to school.

Of course many of us went braless. You can do that comfortably when you aren't dedicated to getting artificial monster boobs. Those little halter tops that we made ourselves usually. We made our own bell bottoms sometimes too by stitching in a triangle of fabric. I don't recall really thinking of any of it as being sexy. We weren't so conscious of that then. It was being natural and comfortable.

yeah, but us guys really did think it was sexy, very sexy.