Thread: Was I rude?

Strange title I know, but something that's been niggling at me all day. I am by no means a perfect person, not into "proper at all times etiquette" but generally do my best to be polite and kindness means everything to me. I can also be a bit shy so maybe that is part of my questioning this. Anyway, long story short. I am extremely lucky to have a wonderful dentist, who I think the world of. His staff, especially one member who is assistant/receptionist has always been very kind to me over the many years I've been going there. Let's call her (not her real name) Kelly. He (dentist) also has a second (full time) receptionist (only), who has also been there as long as I have and her co-worker. I'll call her Marlene. My next "cleaning" is in one month. My dentist's office is located next to a drugstore where I often pass time if I'm early to an appointment. Prior to my last appointment, I ran into Kelly at this store. She was there looking for something for her daughter. Nothing of consequence just a small bag of candy which the store did not have in the (small) size she wanted. Lol, after all she is a dental assistant!

Is anyone here a KMART shopper? If so, you probably know of their "Shop Your Way Rewards" Card. This savings card allows you to get "points" for purchases but also (on rare occasions) rewards you for shopping by randomly gifting you with a voucher to redeem for a specific item "prize" under a dollar. I've "won" a free Glade Spray, One roll of paper towels, that sort of thing. Coincedentally I recently "won" two free packages of the candy Kelly has been looking for. Certainly there are other people I could have given the candy too (I can't eat it due to jaw issues) but given the timing I thought it'd be appropriate to give them to Kelly for her daughter. A nice thing to do as well, for someone who I've always liked. No biggie right?

Summer has come to the city in which I live. The last couple days have been dry and hot. There's no way the chocolate candy would "survive" the month until my next dental visit. I also had just gotten a bill from the office and figured I'd save a stamp by bringing it along with the candy for Kelly in person. I didn't call ahead of time (something I'd normally do, not that I'd ever visited the dentist's office for non dental reasons but you know), because it was a last minute decision since I was going to be in the area anyway. I get there and am greeted (naturally) by Marlene. Kelly was not available at the time because she was with a patient. I was sort of stuck. Lol, Marlene was shocked to see me, thinking she'd forgotten my appointment. I first apologized for the "scare" and then gave her my payment. Kelly was not in sight so I asked if she was there and that's when I found out she was busy. Chocolate doesn't wait on anyone so I quickly explained the "gift" to Marlene who said she'd give it to Kelly. That was it.

I just feel somewhat...not bad...but a tad uncertain of whether it was rude to have given something for Kelly to Marlene. The two of them are friendly with one another so nothing like that. I just mean it felt awkward to give something to someone (in a professional) setting to someone else if that makes sense. I have in the past brought a holiday gift for the entire office, always thank all of them (including Marlene) for their kindness, etc but this felt weird. Maybe because Marlene looked a little sad when she confessed to me that she had never "won anything. Even something as trivial as a candy bar." Shrug, probably I'm making a mountain out of a molehill. No, I normally don't spend time pondering such matters! I know I can always lightly "apologize" to Marlene next month and that most likely she won't even remember the incident nor have been bothered by it!

All of you have my permission to roll your eyes, thinking "that Teelana" is an odd one." Just also remember that I mean well! Anyway, thanks for reading this.