Guy needs help with girl friend problem

**Travis_C** · 11-10-2010 03:04 PM

So its not what you thing.

This will be a bit of a long store but i would like to know what to do to help her.
So my name is Travis (22) and her is Libby (23) to make this a little easier i hope. We fail in love in Jr high. and i took her virginity when we where in high school. After 6 yrs we have 2 kids now. and need less to say we are now longer together. She is now dating someone i know but still having sex with me. he is 3yrs older then her and still a virgin and she has now clue i guess on how to get started in sex with him, so she stuck with that problem, but i also found out that she has been talking to a friend in the army in Germany, Well now he has sent very pricey stuff to her, she has been web cam with him. i know she and him have both masturbated in front of each other. They are both LDS (Mormon) and he has a Future wife back in the states that's one of Libby's friends. I Stopped the chatting in hope to save there future marriage.

I now i am not over her leaving me, I dream of us every night. i know i can get back together with her but knowing she cant help but what to have sex with all her friends. Can i trust her to stop or do i just have to let her go out and have sex so she know what other men are like. I'm even open to threesome with 2 men like she said she may like.

I dont what to sound like i honking my own horn but i have made more then a few girl happy, i mean if you man makes you happy and can give you 7-12 large orgasms a night if you what that many would you leave, but i am still worried if we get back together if i can trust her.

Any help with this i would like. even if it just Take the kids from her and leave her be.

**kristalyn_04** · 11-10-2010 03:44 PM

Well this is certainly a tough situation as you have 2 children together. If both of you are thinking of getting back together you would need to have a long discussion about boundaries, trust, and what is expected. If you would have an open type of relationship, you would also need to be very safe about that, you don't want to catch and STD or her end up pregnant by someone else. I would say no, right now you can't trust her... it would take a lot of work on her end to prove that she is trustworthy before you could even consider being with her. Just my thoughts.

**Travis_C** · 11-10-2010 03:51 PM

Well with the STD thing its very hard, She cant use condoms at all every one we use make her sick and has a chance to kill her. There not a lot of them that even fit me anyway. we been using a IUD i think thats what its called.
thank you for the reply

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-10-2010 04:11 PM

Sounds to me that she has an addiction perhaps to sex.. She doesn't seem to have any morals no offense either, as she has masterbated with her "friends" future husband, whom in return it appears, has sent her expensive gifts...

She is not a one man girl at this stage, for what ever reason.. She is happy to explore.. She is happy to have two men at once, happy to masterbate via web cam with friends/strangers even perhaps...

Whether your good in that department or not is not relevant... The boyfriend you speak of who is a Virgin, would / maybe think he's exclusive, yet, your still sleeping with her.

You may feel this way as you were a teenager when you met, that you had children together, that you don't believe you can move on..

You can.

I don't understand why you think we would tell you to take the children and let her be? Do you feel she is a bad Mother? Children need their Mother ... What I do suggest is that children need their father too, so don't do anything that would make her try to stop you from ever seeing them...

I think you should move on and find what your looking for and be a great dad.

And, why is it that condoms can kill her, is she allergic to latex? There are non latex condoms as well out there

CW

**Travis_C** · 11-10-2010 04:34 PM

the kids part i see them on there bdays that's it. and she only lives .5 of a mile away.
to the condom we have no clue and doctors don't know but something about them latex or not make her sick give her a rash and one time she went into shock, and stop breathing. i almost went to jail because the doctor thought i was trying to kill her.

So to say the least i has spend a good bit of time with this person, saved her life, and have kids with her, even after her taking the kids from my house when i was at work and leaving i forgave her for all that, she does what to work things out but she what to try out other men, im will to let her,if i trust her and him. i just what to know if from a women if they think i can or not trust her.

**Colorado** · 11-10-2010 07:20 PM

You will never be able to trust her - do youself a favor and start mending your hurt feeling now.
Look for someone who will be loyal - she sounds to be very immature and or a gold digger who just wants to be pandered too and take advantage of guys.

Get rid of her and don't llok back.

**Travis_C** · 11-10-2010 07:39 PM

i think im going to have to. now i have to get a judge yea.
i have to see my kids more then 2 days a year.

thank you ever one.

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