Does it REALLY hurt when I do that???

**JRod** · 11-18-2010 06:39 PM

Is it possible (ok of course it's possible I should ask "probable") that I could be "hurting" my girl during intercourse. I'm not talking a lube or arousal issue here but she says "easy...you're too big". Here is the thing. I DON'T consider myself so at all. At under 7in and not exactly on the girthy side I don't see it. Makes me wonder if she is just stroking my ego or if I'm being insensitive when I say "come on babe you can handle it" (lol). She Is a petite woman but then again we have established that height/weight are not necessarily related to genital size.

**LanaBear** · 11-18-2010 06:43 PM

If you are ramming up against her cervix, well, yes, you can hurt her during sex.

Personally, with me it happens during certain times of the month where I feel he can't go as deep as I'd normally allow him to go, it just is sometimes uncomfortable. However, at other times, no holds barred on deep penetration, doesn't bother me a bit.

**Seeker_Advice** · 11-18-2010 06:52 PM

Absolutely possible. My lover has told me something similar....." go easy big fella".

**sourpuss** · 11-18-2010 07:31 PM

Could be the position/angle rather than a size thing. Like Lana said, if you're hitting her cervix, it's going to hurt.

**JRod** · 11-18-2010 07:34 PM

Originally Posted by sourpuss

Could be the position/angle rather than a size thing. Like Lana said, if you're hitting her cervix, it's going to hurt.

Thanks sourpuss. You just called me small. Hahaha, just kidding

**shweedart** · 11-19-2010 04:29 PM

my bfs one curves to the right (he's under 7" too) and it absolutely kills me to have sex Doggie style. Which is a shame cos it was my favourite before it started hurting

Deep=pain for me

**Hopeless Dork** · 11-19-2010 09:53 PM

Your penis size really isn't the factor most likely... as I know women that complain of having pain during sex with guys with 4, 5, 6 inches and bigger. It depends on their arousal, whether or not a woman is 'ready' is more than just is she wet, there is a lengthening of the vagina that takes place during arousal, and the tissues become a bit swollen, allowing for much more comfortable penetration. Also positions can shorten the vaginal canal and make it so that even a guy with a small penis can bump the cervix and cause pain.

Saying 'you can take it'... is too porno of a response, if she's saying it with a smile, and teasing that you hurt her, she may be just stroking your ego... along with emphasising how big she considers you... but if she is like owe, that hurts, listen to her and try to switch to a position that will make penetration less deep... or stop for a while and attempt to get her to orgasm in another way so that she is more ready for you.. or close to orgasm so that she is more ready for you...

Ignoring her when she is actually hurting can lead to her starting to resent sex, you don't want her to associate your love-making with anything but pleasure and love... if it becomes a burning sensation and cramps ... she'll liken the experience to going and having a brazillian wax, or labor cramps... and not something she will be in the mood for as often.

My boyfriend has a large penis... and 90 percent of the time its just pure pleasure for me, occasionally even when very aroused it can hurt just a tiny bit during or after... but the pleasure i'm feeling at the same time of that ocasional ouch is completely outweighing the ouch.

When I have commented about being sore, he took great concern about it and asked if he needed to be more gentle but I assured him that I absolutely love what he does to me, occasional ouch that hurts mixed with intense pleasure is alllll good to me... and like i said most times I handle it like a champ

But If i would have said i was sore and he was like wah don't be such a baby... I think I would be insulted... like with anything a woman says... they usually want you to care and listen... even if they don't want a thing to change.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 11-20-2010 01:59 PM

Yes it's probable. It's hard for a guy to comprehend what it really feels like "in there". Because you can't "see" it like we can "see" your penis and testicles, it seems harder for guys to understand what's going on in there and that just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it can't be painful. Listen to your lady.