Thread: What men don't understand about women

Originally Posted by Crystalblue

I've got one. I'm not sure if it applies to all women, but it definitely applies to me. Men seem to be good at putting things off when they need a break. My husband will drop all the little things that can wait and put his feet up to watch the game or relax in bed or whatever. I seem to have a problem with knowing when it's ok to just leave stuff and relax. There's toys to be put up, clutter to be straightened, dishes, laundry, and tomorrow things to prepare for. Occasionally I need to be reminded that procrastinating and day dreaming is important too. Lol. My husband has gotten pretty good at noticing the storm of frustration brewing in my head when I need a break and telling me to just stop for a while and sit down. I don't think a lot of guys realize that sometimes women need to be reminded that it's ok to give yourself some down time and taking care of yourself first is not always the wrong thing to do.

It would be interesting if this turns out to be genetic or hormonal, but I doubt it is. Probably socialization from the time the children are babies has a lot to do with this. I don't think it is this way for women who have servants to do everything. Somewhere in their raising, many women are probably given the impression that their worth is partially measured by their ability to keep everything clean and uncluttered. Then when they try to fulfill such an almost Sisyphean task, they let it infringe on other parts of their relationships. Some women are not like this and some men are. A lot of men are taught to work hard during work time, then play hard during play time. They also learn to budget time for relaxing and sometimes make that time slot too large.