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  1. 11-28-2010 11:20 AM #1
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    I do, about everything. Where I am in 10 years, a vacation I can't afford, the jobs I want to have, myself placed in the lead role of my favorite books. I have whole speeches ready for if I ever gain politcal office I can't help it. I feel like I get so deep in these fantasy world's that sometimes I prefer it to my real life. My personal favorite is me recieving my letter from Hogwarts I have know what I would do in my head. I fantasize about sex a lot too. Mostly namesless, faceless people, doing things I am way to shy to tell my fiance I want to try. (sometimes really weird things, like bondage and the like). Am I alone in this or do other people do it too? I don't really feel like it's strange and I am not really embaressed by it. (at least not to you girls) But I worry that this could make me unhappy in the future. Because real life could never be as awseome as the things I draw up in my head. Any thoughts?
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    Absolutely, fantasies and dreams keep us sane. Life is brutal, harsh, and unforgiving having these dreams allows you to see what is possible (if circumstances permit) and give us a break from reality. I do it all the time. My dreams consist of a large 6 figure income and a big house with lots of luxury items and pretty vacations. The silly fantasies also help you out, I mean if your having a tough day and you think about how much fun it would be getting a letter from Hogwarts then that little smile you get could make the day a little easier. Nothing wrong with thinking this way, the only time it becomes a problem is if it takes over your life (like actually thinking Hogwarts is coming for you) but if you already know that they are just dreams and fantasies to put a smile on your face then keep on dreaming away.
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    My whole childhood was like that

    It's ambitious, dreams, goals, plans, go for it, there's nothing wrong with it at all...

    Some will say "you live in a fantasy world, you need a reality check" but as long as you can function day to day with things you "have" to do and as long as you see your relationships as "real' then there is nothing wrong with living in a fantasy world...

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    Fantasy is why GOD gave all of us an imagination.

    Imagine if.... generally starts fantasies in our mind.

    Just be sure you live in the real world.
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    I agree with Seeker_Advice. Fantasy is healthy. What may draw concern is your comment that, "I feel like I get so deep in these fantasy world's that sometimes I prefer it to my real life." Just don't get carried away. Stay grounded in realty.
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    I find myself fantasizing about the same kind of stuff-- most often dealing with "coming across some fundage" in order to not have to work. Sometimes I get a little too caught up and am almost disappointed when it's like, oh time for work. But I have to think there is a reason why we have these fantasies, maybe to remind us that there is more to life than our current state, to keep us striving.
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    OOoo i fantasize all the time, about living in my own house with a man that loves me for myself, or having children for me to love and raise, i even fantasize at night about being in a star ship and discovering wonderful places, we all fantasize if for nothing else, just to keep us sane...
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    Quote Originally Posted by BasketCase View Post
    My personal favorite is me recieving my letter from Hogwarts I have know what I would do in my head.
    What's Hogwarts?
    Anyways, to me, fantasy can be what drives someone to be better. I'm sure know pro sport players fantasized about playing in the pro's. Heck, I encourage my players to fantasize, the night before the game, of making the game winning touchdown or game saving catch. Its also know as visualizing. So if the term 'fantasize' is embarrassing, call it visualizing if that helps. Because either way, I don't want to have to JUST live here in the real world. lol

    P.S. I hope my letter of acceptance from Hogwarts is delivered by an owl. lol
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