Need some help doing christmas buying for my husband

**sallyskellington** · 12-03-2010 11:49 AM

ok since I have been out of work for so long we are broke. So I know him he won't want me spending alot on him for xmas. So so far I got him an automotive code reader which was only 45bucks. And there are all these things I want to get him and I am the kind of women that will go into credit card debit to give someone a nice christmas, but then he will be mad so what do I do? Any ideas what to get him?

**pretzel** · 12-03-2010 12:00 PM

Sally, take a look at you first sentence.

I understand that you want Christmas to be special. But breaking the bank and getting further in debt isn't the best way. Find one thing that he could really use but won't get himself. So what if it's something he needs.

Christmas is not about how much you get, but the thought behind what you get.

**KMonte85** · 12-03-2010 12:10 PM

Originally Posted by sallyskellington

I know him he won't want me spending alot on him for xmas.

Originally Posted by sallyskellington

there are all these things I want to get him and I am the kind of women that will go into credit card debit to give someone a nice christmas, but then he will be mad

sally.. this is going to be a bit blunt. It seems like you're wanting to spend money because YOU think it makes for a nice Christmas, not because he does...

Take a look at what you've written here... you want him to have a nice Christmas? Then don't go and spend money you don't have on gifts. By doing so, you are going to upset your husband and his Christmas will NOT be nice, and you'll have made him angry for wasting money.

So what do you do? Give your husband the nice Christmas you want him to have by giving him the one reasonable gift you've already purchased. And if you want to be more generious because it makes YOU feel better - then do something nice and free for him that he'll love. Make him "coupons" for massages and other nice treats, make his favorite dessert, etc, etc... thoughtful gifts always make for a more meaningful Christmas than frivolous ones do anyway.

**sallyskellington** · 12-03-2010 12:18 PM

I know it's what I have to do just needed to hear others say it.

**KMonte85** · 12-03-2010 12:25 PM

Your heart is in the right place... you want to give because you want to make others happy, which in turns gives you joy.

But you can give and make your holiday joyful without the waste! The spirit of the holiday is a mindset, not a stack of wrapped junk under a tree. You and your husband will have a beautiful Christmas together without all the frills.

**Seeker_Advice** · 12-03-2010 01:17 PM

Is it just the two of you? Going to be home alone on Christmas morning?

Buy a big bow, or make one out of ribbon yourself, wake up earlier than normal, get on your favorite PJs (or whatever suits your fancy), cover it with a robe, put the bow attach the bow to the front of the robe at about stomach level, create a card that says something loving and wonderful, attach card to bow. Lay under tree until hubby wakes up.....

The ABSOLUTE BEST GIFT that any woman can give to her man, is the love that she has in her heart for him. No man will turn down such an incredible gift.

**sallyskellington** · 12-03-2010 04:32 PM

we just come from such different back grounds I'm not use to price being a factor. My family is one of the ones that on xmas day you walk out front and there is a shiny new bmw in the driveway. My family's motto is there isn't a problem money can't cure. It's hard having cash limits

**rcoreyus** · 12-03-2010 04:51 PM

Absolutely agree! That would be better than any "thing" my wife could buy me.

Originally Posted by Seeker_Advice

Is it just the two of you? Going to be home alone on Christmas morning?

Buy a big bow, or make one out of ribbon yourself, wake up earlier than normal, get on your favorite PJs (or whatever suits your fancy), cover it with a robe, put the bow attach the bow to the front of the robe at about stomach level, create a card that says something loving and wonderful, attach card to bow. Lay under tree until hubby wakes up.....

The ABSOLUTE BEST GIFT that any woman can give to her man, is the love that she has in her heart for him. No man will turn down such an incredible gift.

**JustHormonious** · 12-03-2010 07:34 PM

Don't you gentlemen remember that she just had major surgery?

Sally,

I say charge it girl, just don't get carried away, no Beemer this year...

**sallyskellington** · 12-03-2010 08:39 PM

rcoreyus no nookie for him for awhile I'm busted. lol but I guess I could do a calender or something... but no way in I would do that w/o losing 30lbs first. So yeah I'm gonna purchase something.

JH the cars and things are my parents, they had bought my brother 5 cars and me 3 not to mention the other stuff. Myparents had even offered to give my husband (back then he was boyfriend) a blank check to go to a car dealer and buy himself a new car when his was stolen.
Now that I'm with him and out of work its so different. I just want to give him the nice Christmases I always had.