Four months ago and it was an awful experience. I tried to please my husband, now ex, by doing the things he liked and having sex. He later told me that the sex was boring and that I needed to lose ten pounds.

I vowed that would be the last time I would give myself to him and we separated soon after that. I realize that I do not miss our sex life at all. In fact, I remember feeling icky when he touched me and cringing when he pushed himself on me even when I made it clear I wasn't interested. I don't know how it happened but the person who I once thought was the love of my life, turned out to be a disrespecting, unloving person that made me feel like an object. How does that happen?