Thread: Ladies: do you agree that...

Haha, noooo, i don't want a guy that belongs to another woman..

I think there are a few factors at play with that. Some women are more comfortable around a taken guy because they know he's not going to ask her out (or isn't supposed to)... so she can flirt and have fun talking and joking around and knows at the end of the day she's not going to have the awkward moment of saying that she doesn't want to go out with him.

Some women are driven by competition and I have a very dear friend that is this way(we are nothing alike, and some of her actions are very cold and calulated but we've been friends since childhood and she has a rough past and I am still there for her). Be minded she has ZERO interest in actually being with the attached guy, she just gets an ego boost out of proving she could take him if she wanted to. I can think of a few times she caused problems in relationships with guys she never had any intention to go out with but wanted to prove to a friend/co-worker/aqquantance... that they weren't as special as they thought.

Girls can be super competititve in front of other women. Some see a guy with his girl and make every effort to keep a buffer and discourage him being interested.. some see a guy with their girl and think... oh I'm hotter than her... let me prove that to her by getting her mans attention.

Attached guys have one thing in their favor when it comes to looking good to available women : they were considered boyfriend/husband material by some other woman. Some women see an attached guy and think hmm... he must have some qualities that made someone think he was worth being committed to.. and can be attracted to the fact he's a suitable mate.

Also when women see guys with their gfs/wives... and see them do nice things for her... hold her hand etc.. they imagine themselves being with a guy that treats them as nice as they see him treat his lady... and sometimes can transfer that feeling of wanting something 'like' that to wanting 'that'.

But by and large women aren't looking and hoping to 'be the other woman'. For the ones that are attracted to attached guys... a lot of times its about the challenge of the 'unnattainable'. Lets face it, if a woman flirts hard enough with a single guy -- theres a good chance he may at least sleep with her if nothing else. There isn't much competition in that for the kind of girl thats into that sort of thing. But a married guy/ a committed guy... thats someone thats not supposed to want them -- so theirs a challenge in that.

I am NOT one of those girls. Attached guys turn me off. If I see a guy with his chick and he even glances my way I shoot him back an icy look or simply turn my head away. I think it is awful when guys disrespect the woman they are with, in front of her or away from her and I don't have the competitive spirit... and I think the opposite of women that think an attached guy has proved he's a suitable guy -- I think... if he's attached and looking around, thats exactly how he'd be with me -- and wouldn't want a guy like that.

Only the women who are not looking to actually be in a relationship, but are seeking some sort of non-threatening fantansy. Something to enjoy in the mind, but not in reality.