Picking up another women

**ginger_sun** · 01-13-2011 08:57 PM

I have always wanted to try a sexual experience with another woman for all sorts of reasons.

1. Where do I find and how do I approach other women that might also be interested?
2. For those that have done so, is it awkward and any tips for breaking the ice to get started?

**SidneyAlive** · 01-13-2011 09:02 PM

Try "craigslist"

**Hopeless Dork** · 01-13-2011 09:27 PM

Gay bar/Night club... gay friendly coffee shops/bookstores ... personal ads , all of those things will lead you to a quicker result if you are looking for sooner rather than later experiences. Just meeting women in a regular setting, unless they are openly gay and talk about their lifestyle... and happen to be single, its going to be hard to figure out who might/might not be interested.

You'll never know if a woman is just a flirt that flirst with men and women alike... or if they are interested in you soley as a friend and will get offended by advances etc... its tricky stuff. Either you have to be open about your curiousity so that women can come to you, or you have to find women that are open about their sexuality/curiousity and go to them... just hanging out in straight settings and looking for a signal may be a hard gig.

I was hit on by a woman when I was a teenager and she was very aggressive, came on very strong, would play with my hair and touch my face, would look me up and down like a man... there was no question in my mind she was interested before she asked me if I wanted to get drinks with her one night -- so when she did, I politely declined as I wasn't interested. But since her signals were so obvious I knew to say no, since that wasn't what I wanted.. had she not done those other things and just asked me to go for drinks I probably would have said yes... and she may have been dissapointed thinking it was a date when I would be considering it a girls night or something.

**Babydoll94** · 01-15-2011 08:53 PM

I was thinking the same thing about being with another woman. I want to have that experience.

**WildChild** · 01-15-2011 08:59 PM

I agree, hunt up your local gay venues. I used live on the edge of the gay community and shop in an openly lesbian run bookstore. I got hit on occasionally. I think in the right location it wouldn't be too difficult to at least meet other women who are interested. But do be careful, there are abusive gay relationships very nearly as often as there are abusive straight relationships.

**LilahX** · 01-22-2011 05:20 AM

There's many personals sites (Adult Matchmaker for example) where you will fiind bi women seeking women for encounters. It may cost you a little bit as you have to pay if you want to be able to make contact, but it's worth it.

I've met a few women this way and am now good friends with one as well. Sexually it wasn't taht great (she wasn't passionate enough for me) but we still go to movies etc so it was a positive experience.

Be honest when you put up a profile that you're new to this and are unsure of how you will go. Just be aware that not all contacts will be worth pursiuing (lots of fakes out there) and not all meeting or liaisons will go well either - but if you don't try you'll never know.

I always knew I wanted sexual interaction with women as well as men, but it took me until my 50s to actually get there and it was (is) awesome, so go for it.

**mark-clemens** · 01-22-2011 11:08 AM

I have a little experience with this 'fantasy', I have dated a lesbian couple, and almso all of my gf were either bi or wanted to try it too. It has been my experience that they are most successful in going to a traditional gay environment for a one nite stand type of deal or using a dating style web site for something more substantial and relaxing, because they had the time to get to know them much better than at a seedy pick-up joint, so the sex was more satisfying in most cases. I would stay away froms craigslist though, thats like the seediest pick-up site on the web imo.

**Jsi** · 02-04-2011 02:20 PM

Do you not have any female friends that you trust and know are std free - this is willing to give it a try? As long as jealousy does not enter the picture it can be a beautiful experience.