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    I came across several provocative articles in New York Magazine on porn and it's effects on the current generation of teens and twenties. It can be found at nymag and Googled using [the vanishing male libido nymag] and another article using [They Know What Boys Want nymag].

    It seems as if porn is so pervasive that it is rewriting how males and females interact to a degree greater than anytime in history. And social networks are a large part of it.

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    Ah, I too have read these and made one of them available to the mods. These articles really struck home for me and tied into some other things I've read. I will be attending a program next week by an author who has researched and written on this topic. It isn't limited to the teens and 20 somethings, I've dealt with it with a man in his mid 40s.

    A book on my list, Female Chauvinist Pigs, deals with some of this.

    On a very basic level for many people, it creates unrealistic expectations for sexual response and behavior. Our brains really cannot separate reality from falsehood very well (that requires the rational mind - thinking). When presented with a fantasy that has any impact or repetition it can become inseparable from reality to us. Sexual response is more about the mind than the body (think wet dreams) what we tell ourselves and feed our brain and body about it will shape our experience.
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    WC shared an article from a welcome member here...It made alot of sense, it was true to the core of many a man speaking...and it stated basically that it was an evil to them and their love lives...

    I mentioned to WC that I felt that it would put all in-secure women into a world of mayhem with their other halves and to those whom don't think that their man is viewing it,would then think they were.......

    Porn is in my opinon now, an evil...it's not about learning what we can do, it's about fantasising and if the woman can't meet it, then the fantasies out way the real life.
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    What a load of nonsense. You're all BSing yourselves into a complex. You've been watching too much professional rot and haven't been watching enough AMATEUR porn. It's as if you've been watching mindless sitcoms on the TV instead of discovery or the science channel. Now you're convinced that it's all rot when only the stuff you're watching is. People who hate or fear porn are misguided. Some also have agendas, usually of a religious nature. That childhood indoctrination is insidious. It's worst in muslim countries, but the US is not much better. If you don't like the porn that's out there, then for heaven's sake, make your own better porn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tinyclitt View Post
    What a load of nonsense. You're all BSing yourselves into a complex. You've been watching too much professional rot and haven't been watching enough AMATEUR porn. It's as if you've been watching mindless sitcoms on the TV instead of discovery or the science channel. Now you're convinced that it's all rot when only the stuff you're watching is. People who hate or fear porn are misguided. Some also have agendas, usually of a religious nature. That childhood indoctrination is insidious. It's worst in muslim countries, but the US is not much better. If you don't like the porn that's out there, then for heaven's sake, make your own better porn.
    And your evidence, research, etc. is ....
    Please provide something to bolster your case.
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    The problem isn't the porn, it's how people choose to react to it. Yes, I said "choose"... the beauty of being intelligent creatures is that we can recognize our responses and behavior to things and decide to either change it or not. Are people really so dim-witted that they can't differentiate between reality and fantasy? Whatever happened to using that most powerful organ and tool that we all have: the brain. THINK people! It's what we were designed to do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jns View Post
    And your evidence, research, etc. is ....
    Please provide something to bolster your case.
    Agreed...

    If you don't like the porn that's out there, then for heaven's sake, make your own better porn.
    So you seriously believe it's about "better porn"? So your suggesting that the men that watch porn, do so because their other half isn't pornagraphic enough, good enough, (see the point?) and therefore the women should be better at porn than the actors....

    Your contradicting yourself big time....

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    Quote Originally Posted by kristalyn04 View Post
    The problem isn't the porn, it's how people choose to react to it. Yes, I said "choose"... the beauty of being intelligent creatures is that we can recognize our responses and behavior to things and decide to either change it or not. Are people really so dim-witted that they can't differentiate between reality and fantasy? Whatever happened to using that most powerful organ and tool that we all have: the brain. THINK people! It's what we were designed to do.
    Getting mad there woman?

    Sure, in-security verses non in-security however even an intellegent woman who has no jealousy, fear of her relationship, can wonder why on earth she is missing out when she's prepared to be all sexual, all woman and give her man what for, but he still has the hunger, urge, desire, to watch porn, masterbate over that, and leave his SO dry and high It happens....

    The brain is in-deed powerful, so powerful that a man can become so addicted to porn, masterbation over porn, and see his SO as not as good, because there he has variety, different cultures, bodies, and fantasies that he otherwise, wouldn't want to participate in but watching is a different story....

    His brain however, becomes his other well, smaller brain in some cases It's in his control, not ours as women.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kristalyn04 View Post
    The problem isn't the porn, it's how people choose to react to it. Yes, I said "choose"... the beauty of being intelligent creatures is that we can recognize our responses and behavior to things and decide to either change it or not. Are people really so dim-witted that they can't differentiate between reality and fantasy? Whatever happened to using that most powerful organ and tool that we all have: the brain. THINK people! It's what we were designed to do.
    Unfortunately it isn't just a matter of choice. Our brain is essentially being rewired all the time. Our self talk, what we see, feel and experience, create new connections in the brain and connections that we don't use eventually cease to exist. Some things, such as certain drugs, Meth would be a good example, will create an immediate change in the body and brain, other things, with repetition become deeply seated. It has to do with neuro connections and receptors. Every response we make has a chemical basis in our bodies and brains.

    A combination of factors can make us more receptive to negative or positive input and result in rewiring our responses, needs and desires.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH View Post
    Getting mad there woman?

    Sure, in-security verses non in-security however even an intellegent woman who has no jealousy, fear of her relationship, can wonder why on earth she is missing out when she's prepared to be all sexual, all woman and give her man what for, but he still has the hunger, urge, desire, to watch porn, masterbate over that, and leave his SO dry and high It happens....

    The brain is in-deed powerful, so powerful that a man can become so addicted to porn, masterbation over porn, and see his SO as not as good, because there he has variety, different cultures, bodies, and fantasies that he otherwise, wouldn't want to participate in but watching is a different story....

    His brain however, becomes his other well, smaller brain in some cases It's in his control, not ours as women.
    Lol no not mad... just trying to get a point across. I guess I just don't see how anyone could waste their time on porn, something that is fake, and neglect their partner who is right there in real life. It's not hard to figure out that what they're seeing on the screen isn't real... those bodies are digitally and/or surgically enhanced, it's not how the majority of people look, and those scenes are acted out and staged a certain way. The people who get addicted to porn, I know there's nothing their partner can do about it. I'm referring to the person that has the problem can choose to do something about it, it's not their partner's fault and nor is it in their control. If someone needs variety, why can't they just open their mouth and communicate with their partner instead of turning to porn to solve the problem? That doesn't solve anything, just creates more problems. So, like I said, people just need to use their brains and snap out of it.
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