Those who've told us "I love you"

**sungoddesschelsy** · 03-15-2011 10:22 AM

Feeling it, for me personally is not even compairable to hearing it.

I do like hearing it... but not right after you've done something completely selfish...because then I know you're just saying it because you think I might not be as angry at you... lol

gosh I'm glad we broke up lol!

**kira** · 03-17-2011 09:25 AM

The more weight the words have the harder they are to say. It's because they have little meaning to a person that they can throw them around casually while those who mean it find it difficult to say and generally only say it in certain situations.

**Wiki_Panda** · 03-21-2011 03:15 PM

I definitely agree that you should show people that you love them at every chance you get...

But sometimes saying it is just as important. The last time I spoke to my mum I told her I loved her and she told me she loved me, about 3 hours later she died. I regret everyday that I never got to say this to my dad, who died 3 hours before my mum did.

It's been 8 years since this and I take every opportunity to tell the people who I love that I love them; my partner, family and my closest friends. It might sound corny but you never know if you'll get the chance to say it again.

**stressed** · 03-21-2011 03:49 PM

Interesting to see all these very different views.

For example, if we put someone like kira together with someone like Wiki_Panda (just opinion-wise on this subject) then we would have one mildly confused couple.

**nyx** · 03-23-2011 12:06 AM

It's been 8 years since this and I take every opportunity to tell the people who I love that I love them; my partner, family and my closest friends. It might sound corny but you never know if you'll get the chance to say it again.

Yeah, my boyfriend and I used to do this. It became really important to me as well until I realized that he was fully aware that I loved him. We do so much for each other that I don't feel like I need to hear it so much. I feel like we share a bond that took a long time to create and if he died right now I wouldn't feel like he didn't know I loved him. I'm not saying what you do is wrong though. I especially make sure to tell my mom and step-dad. I think I feel like my parents need to hear it more now because I don't live near them anymore.

Also, Stressed, I can totally feel what you're saying about saying "I love you" out of obligation. I want to be loved for who I am rather than the fact that I happen to share blood with you. Mostly I feel like if someone is going to be disapproving of the person you became, can they love you? That's just me and my family though. I think the people can love the IDEA of someone, and never know the person feeling the spot of the IDEA (if that makes sense).

**stressed** · 03-25-2011 01:03 AM

Originally Posted by nyx

Y I think the people can love the IDEA of someone, and never know the person feeling the spot of the IDEA (if that makes sense).

I agree. This can happen with any spot: spouse/relationship/relative. Being told you are loved by someone who loves the idea more than you is a difficult situation as you don't know what to believe, or if you should stay, or even what to say. And once you realize it hearing the words becomes annoying, yet if you discuss it the person claims that it's indeed 'love' they are talking about and won't admit otherwise. That's why some people lie and claim we're all they want, so they won't lose the 'idea', not us.