The Lost Art of the Handjob

**Mr. Inquisitive** · 03-25-2011 08:05 AM

Anyone else (man or woman) still like giving/receiving a handjob? I know to some it seems like such a high school thing but I still get turned on and enjoy a good handjob. I don't mean a quick up and down pumping, but a nice sensual one with lots of teasing and change of pace. I find them so erotic. Thoughts?

**caster** · 03-25-2011 08:16 AM

I actually prefer one from my wife over a BJ. She gives me a great HJ quite often. Lot's of baby oil and takes her time, making me squirm.

**ItsASecret** · 03-25-2011 08:41 AM

Meh I find them boring but every once and awhile my bf will ask that I do only that for him. Usually in the morning right when we wake up. Fine by me because in the morning my mouth is bone dry so there won't be anything happening with that anytime soon. He is not so much into the pumping but more twisting of my wrist.

**PatrickJW** · 03-25-2011 09:38 AM

My GF and I have this combination thing she does BJ/HJ that makes me crazy. Sometimes she will switch to a swirly tongue / swirly palm of her hand thing, she's fantastic at it & loves doing because hearing me enjoy it makes her hot! I get wet quickly (not circ'd) as does she, ist very sensual. We often do that more then the old in & out, and I have a two fingers tongue routine she's very fond of as well!! So thumbs up from us!

**Seeker_Advice** · 03-25-2011 01:26 PM

Ah yes, the old "cork screw" technique that ItsASecret mentioned, I really enjoy that. I'm not a big fan of the old stand by up and down jerking motion.

I don't know if what my SO enjoys me doing to her is a "hand job" or not. It's really more fingers than anything. One or more inside and one or two doing the "butterfly"in her clitoral area. Ahhhhhhh!

**Thomas Hepburn** · 03-25-2011 01:37 PM

Yes, my g/f gives me a nice hand job. She plays with my penis for an hour or two when watching tv. Then she'll make me ejaculate. The playing with her gentle hands creates a nice bond between us if she's not ready for full sex.

**kristalyn_04** · 03-25-2011 02:09 PM

I don't think it's a "lost art", I think it's a pretty common thing amongst couples.

Yes the twisting hand motion works quite well, also applying a little more pressure on the end just under the head creates a lot of sensation, especially if he has foreskin (not circumcised) that can slide back and forth over the head does the "job" well.

Of course each guy is different so whatever works for him.

**sungoddesschelsy** · 03-25-2011 02:46 PM

I've never been asked to give one...

**Thomas Hepburn** · 03-26-2011 03:07 AM

Poor man/men. Why not ask your b/f sometime if he'd like one? It's a good way of keeping the tension down for him if you are not really into full sex yourself for any reason.
It is one of the most enjoyable ways a woman can give a man pleasure. It's different from a blow job. Kristalyn describes it well. Remember, as he starts to ejaculate, to keep going for a few seconds as he is still orgasming. Always take an interest in the ejaculation as well. The thing not to do is slide up and down and make him come while you are watching tv ! I think it is much easier for a woman if the man has a foreskin. This acts as a friction motion against the head.

**Thomas Hepburn** · 03-26-2011 11:35 AM

Forgot to add ladies... remember that the penis is very sensitive indeed. Men don't like it being yanked. Firm strokes or pressure are nice , but also bear in mind that, with a hand job, you can get a much softer touch on the head and shaft with your hand. Just try running the back of your hand up and down his shaft lightly stroking it. And using the tips of your fingers to lightly touch his balls, shaft and head. Women's hands are lovely and soft and their touch on our most intimate areas is heavenly. It's difficult to get this very soft touch even with your tongue. A b/j is very nice as well, but it is different from a loving hand job.