Thread: Why does it hurt soo much?

Unfortunately, there isn't much of anything you can do other than to keep telling yourself positive things and days will turn into weeks and weeks into months.

Healing a broken heart takes time.

Take care of yourself. Eat right. Get plenty of rest. Don't use cigarettes or alcohol. Drink water.

Try to look ahead and stay focused on what's to come.

Originally Posted by Seeker_Advice

Unfortunately, there isn't much of anything you can do other than to keep telling yourself positive things and days will turn into weeks and weeks into months.

Healing a broken heart takes time.

Take care of yourself. Eat right. Get plenty of rest. Don't use cigarettes or alcohol. Drink water.

Try to look ahead and stay focused on what's to come.

This is good advise.

Yes, a broken heart takes a long, LONG time to heal. It is one of the most painful things a person can go through (IMO, second only to the death of a loved one). One month is not a very long time, the wound is still very fresh. I'm still recovering from a heartbreak that happened over a year ago (the reason I came to this forum, in fact). If you are still in contact with him at all, that will make it harder to let go. I don't know what the arrangement will be once your baby is born (assuming that you plan on keeping it and the child is his), whether he will be in the baby's life or not, so that could complicate things. But my advise would be, if possible, cut your ties with him and don't talk to him at all, unless it has something to do with your child and it's necessary.

Also spend time doing things you enjoy, preoccupy your mind by keeping busy. Go out with friends and family if you can, smile and laugh, try to have a little fun. There will be good and bad days; on the bad ones, a good friend or family member to lend an ear can really help (and this forum too). If you find yourself falling into a deep depression, see a counselor, talk it out with someone you trust. Time heals all wounds, and you will be stronger and smarter for the experience.

Not sure if you are young or not, guessing you are ?
But young or old, losing a loved one whether by death or just breaking up, is hard. Much harder at first, but time heals that pain of loss.

in the back of my mind I know that I've lost something that my heart couldn't bare to loose

I'm sure it feels that way right now, try to put those thoughts into the child you are carrying. put the wellness and future of the child you are carrying in that sentence.

Can you risk losing the child or neglecting him or her, by not sleeping, eating, exercising correctly ? That child feels the stresses of your emotions , that child is growing inside you, needs a stress free environment, needs you to eat healthy, be happy and take care of yourself, so when it is born it will have your full motherly attention, filled with love and nurturing.

Take that love you felt/feel for him, that love you miss getting from him and give it to the one good thing in your life that he gave you, that he can not take away from you.

Realize that the pain of losing someone can be devastating. Think of the women and men who's significant others / husbands/wives have passed on and can no longer make the " Choice to leave them " but are torn from their hearts .

How do they survive ? They go on, they pour that love into that child, into their family and into themselves, Believing that someday they will find another to share their life with.

So Chin up girl, keep the tears and stress limited and pour yourself into those who you know will love you like you do them .

Your Unborn is a Great place to Start.

I'm sorry for your broken heart. I'm brokenhearted as well. I remember something my dad told me a long time ago. Of course, I forgot it until now. Never allow yourself to love anything or anyone so much that you can't let it or them go. I had forgotten that and here I am- I know how hard it is when someone leaves you and you worship the ground they walk on. It's happened to me too, but there is a silver lining to this, now you have a chance to find someone who worships the ground You walk on. I think it's terrible the way most men treat pregnant women. They help produce a child and then walk away for the woman to deal with it all on her own. I'm a man, but I loathe men like that. They are purely selfish and You are better than they will ever be. If he comes crawling back, kick her it the seat of the pants and leave him on the curb. They usually come crawling back to avoid paying child support. You deserve better than that. Hang in there and make him a memory-

Originally Posted by infinitlove91

in the back of my mind I know that I've lost something that my heart couldn't bare to loose

That's not it. You hurt not because you lost a good relationship, but because he turned out to be a turd that stabbed you in the back.