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    Didnt know exactly where this should go but...
    I have a good friend that (honestly) I woud hang around with more if it werent for her almost 4yr old. I know its imature, Im the adult, she's the kid. But she is one of the most misbehaved kids I've ever known. She has so many annoying traits that just get you ureally pissed off. Doesnt listen to her mother and if she does its only for 5min. My friend/her moms dicipline techniques clearly dont work. Either threatening to be spanked or actually being spanked does nothing. It seems to be the only way she knows how to dicipline. Part of the problem is the mom, part the girls, and part mine. I feel ery bad immature for not realy liking a child. But sometimes I just cant stand her. Now dont get me wrong. I would protect this little girl from harm no matter wht I had to do.
    Ive already prepared myself for suck it up your the adult type comments. Is there anything I can do to help the situation??

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    Be-friend her and make her feel like your a great Aunty she can't wait to see, give her lollies or something a small gift each time you see her, talk with her, laugh with her and show honest affection.

    Children mis-behave but more so, if two Adults are laughing, talking, she is feeling left out and trust me kids know if you don't like them, so she is playing up, to get attention....

    I am sure you will find that you won't be able to speak as much to your friend when her daughter is around however, you won't stress either because you will all get along fine.

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    She's probably not listening to her mom because she's figured out her mom is full of threats and very little action. Most kids actions and behavior are based on parenting or in this case, lack thereof.

    You can either talk to your friend about discipline, however, if you don't have kids, she may tell you exactly where to stick it.
    You can stop hanging out with said friend and tell her you just don't have the patience for children.
    You can try, like CW said, befriend the little one.

    It's not easy being a parent and most often, people who don't have kids often don't understand. However, my kids are also very well behaved because they know I will make good on any "threats" given to them, lol. However, some people just do not have the patience for kids or other people's kids. My hubby's best friend is one of them, no matter how well my kids are behaved, he finds something to nitpick at. My kids even idolized him for some reason, eventually, they just got tired of him and for the most part don't care what he thinks or says anymore. Doesn't bother me none. I'm not going to force my kids to respect somebody who doesn't respect them.
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    I have a 20 month old and she is very well behaved. I mean she of course has her moments like any toddler but she listens so well. I havent experienced a 3 or 4yr old yet so maybe my time will come but I do tend to dicipline with more gentler methods. And so far it seems to work quite well. If spanking isnt agaisnts a parents conscience and it doesnt confuse the child then fine, but I know it would mine. I def. couldnt say to her tat I dont have the patients for her child but I suppose if it got to bad I could talk to her about dicipline. TACTFULLY. LOL
    i guess Im more surprised in myself, because I LOVE children, that there is actually one that makes me feel this way. Anyways, thank you for your comments. It helps!!

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