NEED ladies HONEST HONEST HONEST opinion!!! Not what you THINK I want to hear.

**JRod** · 04-19-2011 07:58 PM

Bottom line...I want to know what the odds are my gf will cheat while I'm away. Situation....GREAT sex life, good relationship (could be better we've had our problems). Her drive is not High. I'd say it's about average. She's a fairly conservative lady (dress, talk, etc). I have no sexual complains 4-7 times a week. Reason....I'm about to deploy to Afghanistan for 5 months. Not long but long enough. She will be left all alone, no kids, at home. In my opinion, boredom leads to mischief. She doesn't have a close circle of girlfriends nor does she have many activities to occupy her time. We've pretty much been each others world for the past 3 years. She IS close to her family though. She's an online/facebook junkie. I worry that that will be her down fall. Guys will swarm to her for "support" in my absence. Given this info what do YOU think. Am I trippin or would YOU be able to resist temptation? Thanks ladies;-)

**Mes T** · 04-19-2011 08:12 PM

JRod. I don't see how anything you've listed in that post is or is not an indicator of her chances of cheating.

Has she cheated BEFORE? Has she ever had a history of being unfaithful?? If the answer is no then I don't see any reason why you should worry...

I wonder why she doesn't have a circle of girlfriends? Is it because you two basically only spend time with each other?

If that's true then you being deployed for a while can give her the opportunity to make new friends, acquire some hobbies...

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-19-2011 08:16 PM

Tripping

J-Rod, "good relationship"that's all you said, you talked about sex drive so this means you are focusing on her sex drie to establish whether or not she will need sex or can cope without it for 5 months and then there are those evil men whom jump on vulnerable women

Three years suggests something must be going right don't you think? 5 months is not a long time, yes it's long but you never mentioned "I know she loves me"...Do you?

You never mentioned " we have a great connection" do you?

Bottom line in my opinion if you do? Then you have nothing to worry about if you love her? It's been three years, give her a promise ring before you go, something in knowledge that you two belong together.

If I love someone there is no tempation....We can handle ourselves....

CW

**kristalyn_04** · 04-19-2011 08:35 PM

Agreed. It doesn't matter what her sex drive is or how many guys come after her while you are gone. If she loves you, is committed to you, has morals and values what she has with you, then you have nothing to worry about. I think you are speaking more out of insecurity than having a real reason why she might cheat on you.

**JRod** · 04-19-2011 08:38 PM

MES T, thanks. CW, yes we do love each other. I meant to state that. Good connection as well. I guess I just know she will get lonely. She needs attention. We all do. When an opportunity falls in a guys lap, he usually takes it. Some will deny it, I'm telling you that it is so. Women are different yes but is she? Do we REALLY know what our partner will do in a situation if no one will find out? How can we say for sure?

**WildChild** · 04-19-2011 08:40 PM

Is she an emotionally needy woman?
Historically has she jumped immediately into a new relationship the moment one ends or looks like it will end?

This is pretty hard to answer about someone we don't know. Would you have stayed with her for 3 years if you really thought she was the sort to cheat?

Give her lots of loving before you go and store up lots for yourself. Do what you can to stay in touch with her (and pop in here occasionally) and let her know how much you love and care. You will just have to trust and let this go. The last thing you will need is to be distracting yourself with this kind of worry. If she is worth committing to, this is not an issue. If she is not, you will eventually find out.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-19-2011 09:15 PM

Life doesn't show us endings, only beginnings and present.

You can go through life questioning, wondering, worrying as well as returning and being suspicious.

Just because you know of men whom take advantage of women in vulnerable situations doesn't mean a woman complies. It is in the character of a woman her morals, loyalty you should know of that having been with her for 3 years if she has morals and loyalty.. That's all you need to know.

CW

**SidneyAlive** · 04-19-2011 09:24 PM

she's not gonna cheat on you if she loves you, why would she ??

Put that out of your mind, and let me say "Thank you for your service" Gods speed to you...

**JRod** · 04-19-2011 09:36 PM

Hooahh Sidneyalive...Hooahh!! Simple and true;-)
You're welcome!!

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-19-2011 10:10 PM

Nothing you said about her would lead me to believe you have anything to worry about.. she sounds like she is happy in the relationship and in love with you. Don't make a big deal to her about whether or not she can be faithful when you leave, assume that she will be. Let all the way she's treated you all this time be your comfort. If you sweat her too much on it, it can create an anxiety that maybe if the roles were reversed it would be hard for you to be faithful -- so don't let that line of thinking enter either of your minds. After 3 years together, 5 months of long distance is super doable. If you were together 3 weeks, it would be a different story. She's invested in you... emotionally, she's going to do right by you.