Thread: For parents What has change you?

What a Sad Mental Picture.
Here you have a 6 month old Child, Your child, Your Son that you Created and you are complaining about losing your gaming time or movie time that you used to have before your Son came into the world.

Maybe you weren't ready or mature enough to be a father, but nonetheless You are a Father. It's not too late to become a Great Father, one that is Loving and Active in his development

Get on that laptop and study the Development of Babies and Children, Download some Baby " Learning Garage" Videos, ones that stimulate his brain activity and his senses.. And share them with him, in your lap, or lay on the floor with him and the Laptop, have the volume up to a decent level that will not scare him but will attract his attention.

Take him for a stroll, talk to him, hold him, love him, teach him. You shouldn't " have to Watch him " You should enjoy watching him and sharing his growth. This should be much more enjoyable to you than playing pokemon, You should be looking forward to his learning to crawl and someday take his first steps, his saying Daddy for the first time.

Sure , you also need to take some personal time for you and your Hobbies, Watching movies and playing Games. Being a parent is Not a Hobby, it's a Duty and an obligation to be the best you can be and Duty should come First.

Do your Duty with Zeal, Love, Commitment and someday Your Son will be playing Video Games with you or working on a car together . Make him your Pride and Joy and you will be his Idol that he will want to emulate someday.

How Sad is it ? Your feeling that you are only able to play the DS
Lite and a Game without sound ? Very sad, when you can listen to his giggles and laughter and wonderful Baby sounds.

It's time to Grow up, accept the Responsibility you took by creating your Beautiful Son. There are a Million copies of pokemon and more to come, But there is only one Copy of your Son. You are the Controller of his Life, help him Win the Game of Life.

Ouch.

I believe the question was about what has changed since becoming a parent?

I will preface my response to say that I absolutely love my son with all my heart. I'm grateful for the time I get to spend with him, yes making him giggle and teaching him new things. I remember those early months. Sleepless nights, crying, trying to get the handle on everything, SO many changes. Even when you've been preparing yourself for it... reality is very different, and being exhausted doesn't help make it any easier to cope. There were definitely some times that I would miss just being able to go anywhere I wanted and get some alone time. Or think about things I missed... like reading a book from start to finish with no interruptions. Being able to slack on doing normal housework from time to time... or even getting a call from a friend to go hang out and do adult things.

There's times I miss the spontaneity of being a parentless adult. That has been what's changed the most... and the relationship dynamic of my husband and I. "We" were first and from the moment we knew about his conception, and especially from his birth, our son has far outweighed the needs of "Us"...

What else has changed? The unimaginable joy in my life every time I see him do something new from when he learned to scoot around on his butt before he could crawl to now having this little person run up to me with a smile.. saying a slightly muddled(toddler) "I love you, Mommy." while hugging me before running off... all because he felt like he wanted to say and do those things. Hearing how quickly his language skills are developing... all the quirky, unique aspects of his personality that just make him shine as an individual. I'm awed every day that this little boy was created by my husband and I... and the ways he's already choosing to live his existence.

I give up all those things I used to do gladly to be his mother.. but that doesn't mean I don't think on them and from time to time just wish I had a little break to be my old self for a little while. I think everyone needs a little time to themselves and can want it... it doesn't mean they don't love their child or appreciate them because they acknowledge the changes in their life.