What are you thinking about? (Part 2)

**Texinator** · 05-26-2011 02:27 PM

I'm thinking I'm getting ticked off, ironically because today the third person over the past few days was convinced I was mad at them. While I'm still not mad at any of the three, I'm starting to get annoyed that I have been bringing this out in people for most of my life now.

Today it was a female coworker who walked in and wanted to chat a little about something inconsequential. I was really busy with a critical problem, and I told her politely that I couldn't concentrate on both things at once, and I asked her if she could come back later and we'll talk then. She did come back later, but she was convinced that I was angry with her for some reason, based on the way I had behaved, and when I tried to reassure her that everything was fine and I just needed to concentrate, she didn't believe me. As is often the case when I try to convince someone I'm not mad. Apparently, I must be a passive-aggressive a-hole if I can tell people that everything is cool and they still won't believe me.

It ought to be very simple... if someone really thinks I'm angry, simple ask if I'm angry with someone, and if I say no and you want to point that I seem angry, please believe me when I say that I'm not angry.

I think it is because whereas I tend to be rather quiet and reserved around strangers and very casual acquaintances, friends and family and even some coworkers and people here on the board, get to see my more natural personality. I have energy, am talkative, give people a lot of attention, and love to goof around. It seems when I'm not like that for whatever reason - maybe I'm tired, I don't feel well, I'm preoccupied with something else, etcetera - this throws people and makes them think I'm mad at them when I'm not talking much or not joking around with them.

Maybe I just need to be quiet and serious with everyone and all the time, so people don't expect different from me anymore, but who knows, maybe then they'd worry continuously and endlessly that I'm angry. Aaarrrggghhh!!!

**kristalyn_04** · 05-26-2011 03:08 PM

Well, Tex, men are very simple creatures for the most part. Women, not so much. You didn't mention if all 3 people were women, but I know at least one of them is. Many women have a tendency to over-analyze and read into things that just aren't there. They get turned away because the person is busy, they take it as a personal rejection and assume the person is upset at them when that probably isn't the case. Some women think the whole world should revolve around them and nothing else can be more important, so when their petty needs end up being low on someone's priority list they get offended. It's really their problem, not yours, so you keep being your awesome self and let them assume whatever they want to assume, you're not doing anything wrong.

**Texinator** · 05-26-2011 04:02 PM

True, all three were women, and 90% of the time it's women. It's happened with men, but very rarely.

Women: I love y'all, and I don't think I ever act toward you from a place anywhere but that love. While it's not impossible for me to get angry, I'll be the first to speak up when something is bothering me, like I did in the above post. So until I say I'm angry, quit worrying so much, dagnabbit!

The vast majority of them don't read this forum, but maybe by writing it here, I can send the thoughts out into the universe anyway.

**kristalyn_04** · 05-26-2011 04:53 PM

Another reason why they may not believe you, perhaps they are so used to dealing with men who bottle up their emotions and won't admit when something is wrong. So they assume you are doing the same, acting like everything is fine and it's really not. Of course you're not like that, so maybe just gently remind them that if you say everything is fine then it really is, and you would have no problem letting them know if you are actually angry or upset.

**MarkT** · 05-26-2011 05:37 PM

Trying to figure out whether or not I need to open my own checking account. Divorce, no divorce, divorce, no divorce it's driving me crazy! So, I'm coming into a small amount of money and I think I need to open my own acct.

Smart move or not?

**kristalyn_04** · 05-26-2011 08:40 PM

Originally Posted by MarkT

Trying to figure out whether or not I need to open my own checking account. Divorce, no divorce, divorce, no divorce it's driving me crazy! So, I'm coming into a small amount of money and I think I need to open my own acct.

Smart move or not?

Now you're thinking of divorce again... Mark, what happened to the progress you were making?

**WildChild** · 05-26-2011 11:22 PM

Originally Posted by MarkT

Trying to figure out whether or not I need to open my own checking account. Divorce, no divorce, divorce, no divorce it's driving me crazy! So, I'm coming into a small amount of money and I think I need to open my own acct.

Smart move or not?

Depends on the laws in your state. That may not protect the funds in the event of divorce.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 05-27-2011 08:03 PM

I'm thinking about what an incredibly awesome person my mother is. She left this evening after being here since I got back home from vaca on Tuesday. She knew I was injured (fractured arm, bruising...... ) so she was here to take care of pretty much EVERYTHING. She's cooked, grocery shopped, cleaned, done all my laundry, taken care of my dog, made me special treats to brighten my day, and in addition to that, I simply enjoy her company whether or not she's doing anything to help me. She is without a doubt, the best there is.

**LanaBear** · 05-31-2011 03:47 PM

I'm tired and I've had a headache for 5 days now and I'm thinking how bad it sucks that it is only Tuesday.

**KMonte85** · 06-01-2011 12:47 PM

Was going through my engagement photo proofs picking out which ones I want to get prints of, use for invites/save-the-dates, etc...

And then it hit me. Today is June 1. It's my anniversary - 9 years with the love of my life today.

And I totally forgot about it!! OOPS. We'll have to go out for icecream to celebrate

Good thing is I think he forgot too haha. THIS is why we work so well!