Thread: Snooping :x

I hope this is a good spot to post this..
Okay so recently my 2 best friends (of 12 years) have been spending more time together without me (i'm the taken one now) this isn't really whats bothering me, its that even when it's the 3 of us, they pretty much ignore the fact that i'm there and talk about things i really can't relate to. lately i've been feeling like they have something against me so i did some snooping. I have one of their passwords for facebook so i decided to take a look. I read all the messages between the 2 of them and it turns out they were bashing me and my boyfriend pretty badly..on multiple occasions. They also said some other personal stuff that hurt me. So i told my boyfriend and he thinks i should cut it off with both of them if he's not the problem. He is my love and for some reason they have a problem with it. They're the problem here. So if i do want to cut it off..how do i do it? How do i mention that i snooped? How can this be resolved? Help pleaseeeee

Your feelings , the way they were treating you, should have been enough. You didn't have to snoop to know they were leaning away from you... you knew it already and that was the reason you snooped They, probably don't have a significant other as serious as you have, and may be a bit jealous or may feel like you have cut them off to be with him -- so they are being catty. Its what girls do. I'm sure if they dug through everything you've ever written or heard every conversation you've ever held with anyone -- they'd hear some unflattering things about themselves as well. Its sort of human nature to vent... it wasn't meant for you to see, so its not really fair for you to hold it against them.

If you are happy with your boyfriend, then just be happy with him. You don't have to cut your "friends" off in some huge climactic reality tv event with donald trump coming in telling them they are fired, or glasses of water being poured on them etc :P Just quit hanging out with them, distance yourself... don't call, don't return calls, eventually they will just naturally move on if they havent already.

It hurts finding out your friends would talk about you, but if they were really caring for you, you wouldn't have gotten the vibe from them that they had something against you. Do your own thing and make friends with girls that have more in common with you now, TODAY. They may have been your besties for 12 years, but a lot changes as life goes on, people don't always end up how they started out, you have to roll with it.