Thread: Sexual Acts & Sexual Experiences

Biology has created a cruel conundrum the solution to which eludes many, mostly men, for their entire lives. It’s not until boys become men that they understand, if they ever do, that women respond to sex much differently than they.

We have all heard women refrain disdain for sex. But do they really disdain sex or bad sex? Sadly, many youthful sexual acts have left women marred. It takes a caring and attentive men to undo marring.

When young men (boys) engage in their first few sexual acts, they are exercises in self-gratification. This is not by design; it’s the product of ignorance born of biology. Boys figure that because the act was gratifying for them, by extension it must have been gratifying for her. As boys mature into men, the wise recognize the folly of that assumption. I know. I found out there is far more than a sexual act. Some men never get it.

The overarching agenda motivating boys is the biological stimulation to achieve orgasm. Most boys are unable to analyze the moment for more. And there is far more. A male’s orgasm implies nothing more than self-satisfaction. Sex must be mutual satisfaction.

As boys mature into men they should, but not always, understand that sex is not an act. It is an experience. It is their responsibility to assure that the experience is memorable and satisfying for women.

I hate to acknowledge this, but it seems that most men have no idea where a clitoris is or what to do with it if they do know. Wise men know that a clitoris has more nerve endings that any other part of the human body, male included. It is the only organ in the human body, male included, which has only one function: sexual pleasure. I have been exposed to the theory that God gave women this special gift because they bear his children.

Men are ready to go with erection. Too many men believe that because they are ready to go, she ought to be ready to go. This is a grossly false assumption. Men and women are aroused by different stimuli. Men are one-dimensional when it comes to sense. They are motivated by visual stimuli. Women are multidimensional. And it is a man’s responsibility to gratify all of a woman’s sexual sensations, including fragrance and most importantly touch.

The rule for which I am sure there are very few exceptions is that women loved to be touched while they hear whispers of how beautiful they are. Men should take their time before considering their sexual desires. Kissing is important to women, and soft, romantic music with fragrance of softly flickering candles nudge her into sexual relaxation. Kiss her deeply and passionately. Pay attention to her body. As she moves closer to you, as she softly sighs, as her grasp around you loosens, she is surrendering herself in trust to you. It is a man’s responsibility to listen to her communication she’s conveying without speaking.

Women love to be reassured about their bodies. Softly and convincingly tell her that her naked body is the most beautiful you have ever seen. Do not merely tell her that her breasts are beautiful. Lick her nipples and gently take them into your mouth while caressing the other. Never give a woman’s breasts short shrift. Go slowly and passionately so that she knows that you believe her breasts are the most beautiful in the world.

Men must remember to read cues that women subconsciously convey. While making love to her beautiful breasts, feel her body under yours. Listen to her sighs, her moans. When she begins to thrust her hips into you, she is telling you that she wants to cum. The two most preferred methods women desire to cum is oral sex followed by manual stimulation. Since oral is best, do not settle for second best.

As a man slides his way to the most sensitive area of her body, talk to her. Tell her how beautiful her beasts are. Tell her how much you love enjoying them. As you slowly make your way between her legs, whisper softly to her that you can’t wait to caress her clit with your tongue. Ask her to hand you a pillow and place it under her butt. Now is the time for you to be the man she desires. Firmly grasp the interior of her thighs and push them apart. Look closely at her vagina. Softly whisper to her that she has the world’s most beautiful vagina. If she gives your positive reassurance, you can use more sexually provocative language; e.g., and .

Now is the time for a man to prove to her that she is his princess. I usually start by caressing her inner thighs with my tongue while intentionally brushing my face against her labia. As my tongue slowly eases toward her crotch I rub my hand on the outside of her vagina. After a few minutes of exploring her vagina with my caressing tongue, I will rest the palms of my hands on the back of her knees and push her knees to her chest. With her entire vaginal area exposed before me, her sexual release is minutes away.

I love to softly and slowly draw a woman’s labia in my mouth while gently massaging her clit with my finger. While her labia are in my mouth, I will expose her assuredly swollen clit by softly pulling up its hood. When my tongue finds her clit, her moans will sing a sweet melody to the experience. As I gently and softly draw her clit into my mouth so that my tongue can gently and persistently caress it, I become more aware of her body, especially movements in response to my making love to her clit. After about a minute, I will slide a finger into her and begin to caress the ridges inside of the front of her vaginal wall. After about a minute I will use my tongue to push her clit from my mouth. Then I will firmly caress her clit with my tongue until she explodes in massive orgasm.

A woman will have to recover from a massive orgasm. Most often she’ll take a minute to recover. Hold her to you while she does. Softly and tenderly whisper to her. Do not rush. Pay close attention to her cues. She will probably want you to do it again. If she does, do it for her. Women can cum many, many times. She is your princess. She deserves to feel like a princess.

Whisper to her. She will feel completely comfortable with you. Ask her what she wants to do. If she wants to be penetrated, ask her how she wants to be penetrated. Follow her lead. But wait until she’s ready. She will tell you when she wants you inside of her.

Sex should never be an act. It must always be a mystical experience. Being chivalrous, it is a man’s responsibility to completely assure the desires of a woman are fulfilled. If he does, she will assure his desires are fulfilled.

Communication is crucial. Many women love to be told what a man is going to do to them. Listen to her. If she is cueing you in to something you didn’t plan, always go with her plan. It will pay dividends. After a few sexual experiences in which she knows she’s his princess, she’ll probably reward him with fulfilling sexual desires. However, use caution and circumspection. While a man may ask a woman to do something, listen to her response while analyzing her body language. If you ask her to do something to which she is adamantly opposed, tell her you’ll never ask her again. And for men, this almost always involves a threesome. If she says no and means it, do not ever broach the subject again.

Sex is far more than an act. When a man and woman are in love with each other, sex is a mystical experience that draws them so closely together that their souls dance to the rhythm of the magically passionate experience that they’re creating.

Sex is purely a physical act that satisfies instinctual desires. Sexual experiences create lasting memories that draw a man and a woman into an inseparable bond. When a man and a woman create sexual experiences with each other and they are best friends who are in love with each other, being with another will never enter their minds. It is good that men and women know sexual acts and sexual experiences so that they can choose wisely. I would trade every single sexual act I have ever had for another mystical sexual experience.



My Best,

Taos