Politically Correct or Laziness?
Ever feel like when you stand up for what is right, others make you feel like a jerk? Is anyone out there able to have strong feelings for good morals without making everyone else feel inconvenienced?
That depends on what you're standing up for. Whether you think there is such a thing as being universally right.
Often in these kinds of situations where each person in a discussion has feelings so strong they can't compromise, it's healthier to agree to disagree and not bring it up again.
I think through time, if you're truly passionate for something, you stand up for it because you believe in it, despite how someone else feels about it. With that said, standing up for something does not equal cramming your opinions or beliefs down someones throat either. So stand up for what you believe in, for what you believe is right, stand up for it and don't be ashamed, but respect the opinions of others who differ from you.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
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Yeah, I know you're right on that one. And biting one's tongue is often a good answer. To get more specific, we had a woman in our group of friends talking behind everyone's back. Finally, another girlfriend who is usually pretty quiet stood up to her, in private, and told her she didn't like the way she was bringing negativity into the group. Since then, this person who stood up for us is being shunned. Almost as if everyone is afraid of the gossip girl because she has a tendency to be loud and overbearing. I don't know. I don't think that's right. It's almost as though it's easier for the women to toss aside the quiet girl rather than deal with the wrath of the louder one.
People can be soooo catty. The best think you can do is make a big effort to make sure the "shunned" girl is included. Invite her yourself if the rest of the girls don't. I'm sure the gossip girl went and told evvvvvvvvvveryone what quite girl said, and probably over exaggerated it to the fullest. There's no telling what she's told them was said. Just don't let yourself fall into the group mentality of shunning the girl. See to it that she's included and if anyone says anything, stand up for what you know is right.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
Sounds like you've been down this road before. You nailed it! Great advice. Definitely already following it. Just disappointed others are okay with what's gone on.
If you like what the other girl stands for and are friends, start your own alternate group that doesn't include the girl with the sharp tongue.
I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
Patrick Henry
I so can relate to this it's not funny.Originally Posted by mbgirl
What you have to realise is deep down inside they know that the quiet one whom decided to talk in private and told her shedidn't like the way she was bringing negativity into the group was trying to solve a problem for all concerned, but failed, or did she? Because, whilst everyone decided to be silent and let it go, they won't forget.. An overbearing, loud person isn't acknowledged as being right, rather feared or better to let it go and let her believe she is right. This has happened to people in my life in business and ultimately those people left and went to work for others in the end, finding their own morals too high to deal with it any further.
It's not right but remember, they make their own decisions as a result in their own time, when they are ready.
Some of these girls that I can relate to, that discussed a simular thing with me a while ago, went on to own their own business, coming to realisation that morals were more important and that, "that" girl that spoke up was right and are doing really good.. The one whom scared them off, well she's still doing the same to new people.
Remember, it is noted, it's just timing as to when the use what they saw and decide not to be a part of it
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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