5 Negatives & 10 Positives (Self-Esteem Game)

**SomiticPit** · 09-09-2011 12:05 PM

I was given the idea to create this game after reading someone's thread about her lack of confidence in the way she looks. It made me want to get the women on here thinking about themselves in a new light, especially those women who are more on the insecure side and may be stuck in one mindset of what beauty really means.

The rules to this game go as such:

1) You must first post 5 Negatives about your own physical appearance. These Negatives need to be something you are highly insecure about. They could even be things that you may have been insulted about, or things you wish you could change.

2) You must then post your 10 Positives about your own physical appearance! This could be the harder list, but you must sincerely try to reach 10! These are physical attributes you like about yourself, attributes you have been complimented on...

I just want women out there to give a second thought to themselves, quit worrying about what we don't like and focusing a little more on what we do like.

**SomiticPit** · 09-09-2011 12:22 PM

I will go first...

My 5 negatives:
1) Thighs. I have cellulite on the backs of my thighs, and a pocket of fatty tissue right underneath my derriere. It is less than flattering.
2) Feet. I have the "Toe of Authority" where the second toe is longer than the big toe. I hate it.
3) Skin. I have the crappiest skin ever! Freckles, cherry angiomas, spider veins, mild acne, and its pale.
4) Hands & Nails. I have frog fingers, where the tips are round and fat! And my nails aren't the shape I'd like them to be. They are also thin. They peel and break off.
5) Chin. I have a button chin, and it's not long and graceful. I can easily pull it into my own neck and make myself look chinless! Also, it's broke out all the time.

My 10 Positives:
1.) My Eyes: They are the brightest blue-green ever! I always get compliments on my eyes, and play up their color with make-up, even though I don't have to.
2.) My Teeth: I have fangs, and I love them!
3.) My Skin: (Also on my Negative list) Because I have a dark patch of discoloration that goes from my neck, over my shoulder onto my chest, covers a breast, goes down my arm to my hand. I think it's so unique and I love it.
4.) My Breasts: Although I have stretch marks now from being pregnant, I love the size of them, even normally. They have a cute perky shape and they aren't too small or too big for me.
5.) My Eyebrows: They aren't too thick, and they have that cute natural arch so I don't have to do much plucking. And they compliment my already pretty eyes.
6.) My Bootay! It's a bubble butt! Nice and round and pretty big for my size, although not disproportionate!
7.) My Height: 5'2" and I don't feel too short or too tall.
8.) My Hair: Its long and thick. Hard to manage sometimes but I can't complain.
9.) It's getting hard now....I'd have to say, my nose? LOL It's a shape I can't complain about! And just the right size!
10.) Ummmm.....I am shaped like an hourglass!!

**Seeker_Advice** · 09-09-2011 03:37 PM

YOU GO GIRLS !!

As spoken/typed by a man who reminds all of you...

Wherever you see bumps, bulges and imperfections, the man who loves you sees nothing but curves!

:-)

**chaya** · 09-09-2011 04:25 PM

Negatives:
1. Breasts too small
2. Butt too flat
3. Feet too big
4. Ears too big
5. Short and skinny

Positives:
1. Very good complexion
2. Nice long hair
3. Brown oriental eyes
4. Long eyelashes
that's about it

**SomiticPit** · 09-09-2011 07:11 PM

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Positives:
1. Very good complexion
2. Nice long hair
3. Brown oriental eyes
4. Long eyelashes
that's about it[/QUOTE]

Awwww Chaya, I'm sure you have way more going for you than that? Do you have a nice, big smile? Or a graceful facial profile? How about maybe SOFT skin, or perfect nails? You can't think of 5 imperfections and only post 4 attributes!!! Come on girl, dig deep!!

**Mes T** · 09-09-2011 07:21 PM

Negatives:

1. Hair often not stylish because I don't know what I'm doing.
2. Fatigue shows too clearly on face
3. Too reliant on eye-liner
4. Could be thinner in places
5. Nails are BLAH.

Positives:

1. Tall(ish)
2. Pretty face
3. Young
4. Good complexion
5. Shapely eyebrows
6. Curvy
7. Rich color hair and eyes
8. Nice teeth
9. Good breath lol

Which is more than I can say for a lot of people I know, it seems.
10. And I smell nice in general. Yay!

**chaya** · 09-09-2011 07:48 PM

Originally Posted by SomiticPit

Awwww Chaya, I'm sure you have way more going for you than that? Do you have a nice, big smile? Or a graceful facial profile? How about maybe SOFT skin, or perfect nails? You can't think of 5 imperfections and only post 4 attributes!!! Come on girl, dig deep!!

I've always had to conspired myself to my younger sister. She has it all, I'm lucky to come up with 4 attributes.

Don't tell me I have low self esteem. I'm aware of my appearance and I'm happy with it. There are so many things more impotent than appearance.

**SomiticPit** · 09-09-2011 08:00 PM

Originally Posted by chaya

Don't tell me I have low self esteem. I'm aware of my appearance and I'm happy with it. There are so many things more impotent than appearance.

Oh, but of course there are...I am sorry I didn't mean to imply you had low self-esteem. The point of the game was to try to get women to focus more on their beautiful physical features than their not-so-beautiful ones. I understand that materialistic things aren't everything, but sometimes it's important for us to not overlook these things, especially in times when we may be feeling insecure, or as if we can't compare to someone else. I'm glad you are happy with your appearance, that is definitely a plus!

**SomiticPit** · 09-09-2011 08:02 PM

Originally Posted by Mes T

Negatives:

1. Hair often not stylish because I don't know what I'm doing.

This made me laugh. I feel the same way much of the time!

**jns** · 09-10-2011 08:56 AM

Originally Posted by chaya

Negatives:
1. Breasts too small
2. Butt too flat
3. Feet too big
4. Ears too big
5. Short and skinny

Positives:
1. Very good complexion
2. Nice long hair
3. Brown oriental eyes
4. Long eyelashes
that's about it

Here is your picture:

Originally Posted by chaya

I would say you rate yourself quite harshly. From your picture, your breasts are a perfect size and your butt is shapely. Your ears are nicely shaped and you are neither too short nor too skinny. Your feet are OK, too. You have a cute, pixie type of face. Your eyes are nicely set and you have a perfectly shaped nose (I don't generally like long noses or sharp noses). Everything else is good. Your husband must be happy to have such a pretty wife.