Recently discovered i have a secret admirer half my age.

**sheriac5** · 10-01-2011 02:26 PM

Recently i have discovered that some very close longtime friends of ours 18 year old son has a crush on me. I know this because of an email i was sent from a friend of mine that he was telling this to her in chat messages. I'm not quit sure how to handle this, we are around our friends often, and have noticed he has been coming around alot more, sending me emails, and basically flirting with me. He is a very nice person and i dont want to do or say something in a way that will hurt him or his confidence with other girls down the road. I find it flattering that a boy his age would find me that attractive, but also makes me feel a little uncomfortable when he is around. The emails that he was telling my friend, wasnt just him having a crush or flirting with me, his description of how he liked me, what he liked about me and what he would like to do with me if he had the chance is quit graphic in details.I guess from what he said to my friend is that at one time or another he has seen me either naked or semi naked , somehow spying on me either changing my clothes, or into a swimsuit or possible getting in or out of the shower, i am not sure on that. So i guess this has sparked his interest to a high level of curiousity of wanting somehow to be with me. Any suggestions on how to handle this or even approach it will be gratefull, also to save him from being embarrassed , is this something i keep from his parents (our close friends), my husband knows about it, and all he can do is tease me or crack jokes about me being a "cougar" or a "milf" "sugarmomma", he said, just leave it alone and maybe he will just chalk it up as a wild crush fantasy. is he right, just let it play out?

**spurzzz** · 10-01-2011 02:57 PM

"Stacey's mom has gottt itt goinn onn" lalaala
- if you want a laugh, check out that vid!

Send him the whole series of Friends I say: Cougars galore!

And yes, for the record, I still have a crush on Jennifer Aniston.

**jns** · 10-01-2011 03:04 PM

Maybe make strong statements on how bad you think it is when 40 year olds chase after teenagers. Don't talk about him directly, but maybe bring up some cases from the news. You could even use mostly men chasing women, but have some women chasing men and tie both groups together. He should get the hint that you don't want his misplaced amor (love).

**sheriac5** · 10-01-2011 03:08 PM

I could try that, but you would have to know him in order to know, that it would fly right above his head...lol....he's not dumb, but he's a typical 18 yr old boy...mind is everywhere and has selective hearing.

Originally Posted by jns

Maybe make strong statements on how bad you think it is when 40 year olds chase after teenagers. Don't talk about him directly, but maybe bring up some cases from the news. You could even use mostly men chasing women, but have some women chasing men and tie both groups together. He should get the hint that you don't want his misplaced amor (love).

**jns** · 10-01-2011 03:44 PM

Selective hearing and not getting hints is a male trait, for sure. But you didn't want to hurt him or his confidence and this way may just "sour the milk", so to say. I'm sure, in his mind, you are just waiting for a handsome young man to sweep you off of your feet.

**Mes T** · 10-01-2011 04:48 PM

Be more lovey-dovey with your husband when he's around?

I can't think of more of a turn-off if I was crushing on someone...

Or start acting and dressing extremely old. Wear old-lady perfume and complain about all the grays in your hair.

That's cute though, poor guy lol.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-02-2011 01:35 AM

It is sooo normal for these young hormonial men to see an "older " woman (let's face it they watch TV), and want to experience that, an older woman.

In one way it's a good thing, it's telling you that he doesn't like the ditzy, young girls that talk about getting their nails and hair done, he has accepted the maturety of a woman, but also naturally the lust of one.

Let's face it what young boy would not like to experience a real woman?

If you were to say anything to his parents it would simply be a flighting comment on "I think he has a crush on me", but in doing so it opens their mind to either discuss it with him or joke around with him either way he'd be well, not happy.

I always found and still do, with these younger guys, I'm old enough to be your Mother, or older sister, but it's flattering, thanks, but you know that's where it ends....and smile...

It then becomes a fantasy and the rules are laid out, nothing more needs to be said.

**sheriac5** · 10-03-2011 12:15 PM

Oh i definitely know if i told his parents, that his dad would joke with him just as my husband is killing me with his jokes about this...i just dont want to cause any embarrassment for him, and like you said, its an innocent crush, I know it takes 2 to tangle and i for one am not a willing perticipant in this "crush" of his. Besides, its flattering for me, and let him enjoy his crush for now, pretty soon pretty girl will come along and sweep him off his feet and he'll forget all about me...lol

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-03-2011 01:55 PM

Oh no, first crush lasts for years you know that

**BabyGirl** · 10-03-2011 07:25 PM

Oh Girlfriend, Just Ruffle your Feathers out like a Peacock and enjoy that he admires the Beauty.

I wouldn't say anything to his parents. But I would when in his and their company, just say " How wonderful it would be to have a SON or NEPHEW as nice as he is ".

You can (Also in Mixed Company with him ) always ask how he is doing, got any Girlfriends, Mention when You were His age, you had ( boyfriends ) even had a Crush on a Teacher or Principle.

This should get all of the Adults that are your age talking about their " Crushes " and maybe he will see that it is Normal to have that kind of Crush.

Follow up with " I have a Friend/ Family member/ Co Worker that has a Daughter/ Niece " that is just your age. Maybe on the next get together You Youngin's can hang out and do what Young People do. While us Older's sit and do what we Do " ?

Your Hubby can help with this and you can always Kick him under the table or withhold Sex from him, if he snickers or Laughs at you. Because a Nice young Man thinks you are Attractive .