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Reply With Quoterc, are you back with us?Originally Posted by rcoreyus
I think that if the reason they cheated remains, then they will likely cheat again. If that reason is internal: someone who simply wants to sleep with other people, then they will likely cheat again. If it is something external that can be fixed - maybe something they are missing in their marriage and that is fixed, then maybe they won't cheat again,
rc, are you back with us?
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Corey hello, Merry Xmas
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
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you must believe!
Merry Christmas - I may be back on and off. Will post something somewhere else do not hijack this thread.
Why hasn't "emotional" cheating been brought up? It's not all about the parts - sometimes it's about more. I don't think it's right - but I don't think it's wrong ... Hello - I'm the bad lady....
When you get your emotional needs met from someone other than your partner it can be cheating, but in same cases it isn't. If you have a man that doesn't like small talk, and you love to babble -- chatting with your girls is getting some of your emotional needs met but not cheating. If you're man doesn't tell you that you're beautiful.. and a man at work does, so you go to lunch with him often and flirt (not touch) to feel those butterflies of being 'wanted' -- thats getting your emotional needs met away from your partner, not cheating... but now we're getting into a grey area.
If you're partner wants to spend time with you, but you blow them off to talk to someone online who's attention and conversation you enjoy more than your own partner... thats pretty clearly emotional cheating as you are cheating your partner out of a part of you they want, and giving it to someone else.
There are so many varying degrees of cheating from the visual, mental to the physical and emotional... but the biggest definition to me of cheating would be.. if you're partner knew you were doing it, would it hurt them? If the answer is yes, its cheating to a small degree, or big. Also, if you have to hide it, if you can't tell your partner about it... its cheating.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
While I haven't had personal experience with this, I think cheaters can change. Not all of them, but some can depending on the reason why they did it.
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