When fluids are exchanged that is (FOR SURE) cheating. When a man stops paying attention to his wife because he is too busy doing internet sex or MBing to porn? I'm not sure its classic "cheating" but he should expect this to be a serious issue. If it was me I would be very POed. If he wants to have friends (Even female ones) and talk to them by email? I don't mind. If he is relaying intimate things thats ok if its not him trying to "date" someone else etc. And I expect him to be discrete. I don't want some internet "hussy" phoning at 2AM. My DH has been on a support group for years that has both men and women and he has used that as therapy to work on his ED and I'm thankful for the help he has gotten from them. And sure they know more about our sex life then any of our friends etc... But its not like they know our address or our phone number.

No not at all

i have myspace and if my S/O got annoyed that i said hello to another guy then....id tell him where to go!

no.1 its the internet
no.2 you cant live the rest of your life speaking to women only
no.3 your with your S/O for a reason
no.4 he'd say your being if the shoe was on the other foot would he not?

*being silly

heres my story my baby daddy left and is living with a girl. we started trying to work things out but he never left her so i started using myspace to distract myself from constantly thinking about how he was there. I accepted friend requests from guys and commented a couple of times nothing more than a thanks how u doing and answering questions. well he saw it and got extremely mad at me and now has broken all communication because he says i was trying to find a boyfriend because i had pictures of myself and commented back. Now my question is was i terribly wrong in doing this if we were trying to work things out? my intention was not to find a man it was just to make and keep up with old friends and it never crossed my mind to even meet anyone or call.

I'm sure I'll get flamed over this, but I have to disagree. Light flirting is OK, as long as both parties know that's exactly what it is and is not. Sure boundaries will get tested, but people don't do what they don't want to do.


he left and moved in with someone and is mad about you having a myspace? WOW !
you haven't done anything wrong by having a myspace page.

No1,

No, not flammed, I wish though....

Sorry let's try that again, when I was married, I flirted, he flirted, it's natural and important to know that the opposite sex is attracted to you for sure, and both parties understand it's harmless, (LIGHT) as you state, providing the words are not exchanged in a way that is beyond the meaning of Light Flirting.

My ex's brother in law for instance in front of my ex would always massage my shoulders, no harm.

But your talking "Light" not sexual words, exchanging which i think is totally different in a committed relationship over Cyber Space No1.

That to me is wrong.

CW