I Have Such A Hard Time Goin On All These Dates And I Dont Sleep With Anyone. I Am Too Afraid Last Nite Went On A Date With A Guy And He Was So Into Me And That Was Nice But Of Course He Wanted First Date Sex. That Is Just Nutz. And He Told Me He Has Had Unprotected Sex With Ex Girlfriends. This Made Me Want To Run. Should We Just Assume That Everyone Is Havin It. Or Should I Run. Or Is This Why We Use Condoms Because Of Exactly This. We Dont Know Anyone. I Certainly Dont Plan On Sleepin With This Man Quickly So I Am Pretty Sure He Will Put Me Thru Another Nite Of Pushin And I Wil End It But All Guys Any Guy Seem To Be Shocked That I Like To Wait. Why Is This. Anyone Else In This Position

LISTEN! DON'T DO IT! RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN!

I'm completely serious. Just leave him and don't go on anymore dates with this guy.

Is It That He Has Been Pushy Or That He Has Had Unprotected Sex.

Both. He shouldn't push you if you say no; it means he doesn't respect you and is likely to "get what he wants" and then run.

...because many men wouldn't tell you that they've had unprotected sex with ex-girlfriends. I agree that pressuring you for sex on the first date says that this man doesn't respect you. Sounds like being with him puts you in a dangerous situation. You do have to assume that "everyone's having it" until you are familiar with the person, because 'you just don't know'. If you're saying that all of the men you date want sex on the first date, maybe you need to look at the men that you've been dating...maybe there's some sort of pattern? I don't know...just a thought. But there are men out there who are willing to take it slow. Shame that these 'sex fiends' have to overshadow them.

You need to start dating nicer men.

I think it helps if you share an interest / hobby / sport, and that is the focus of the relationship, not sex. Don't get me wrong, sex is fine, but I don't think it should be the main focus.

Find something you like to do, then find men to do it with. Then, when you know them start dating.