is it wise for a lady to have a man as her close friend over her husband or boyfriend and calls him just as regular as her man especially if she says it just friends. What if she had that friend before the relationship?

It depends on how your husband or boyfriend feels about it.

Great idea if you want big trouble along the line. You married one man and he should be your best friend and lover......mine still is...

well he said that she love him but its only a friends thing on her part and she feels safe speaking to him

I totally agree w/what Caroline said.

If you marry the man or are married to the man, that is the person that should be your best friend and confidante.

DO NOT go to another man about any problems or issues that you may have with your husband or S/O... I don't care if the guy is supposed to be your "friend".

If you want good, objective advice, talk to a therapist or counselor.

thanks for the advise. and finally is it always wrong to check a guys cell phone if u suspect something or should he do the same to you

Something sounds very wrong here.

Why is he letting her call him if "she love him but it's only a friends thing on her part and she feels safe speaking to him"? Sounds strange that he would even tell you that she loves him. But before you start checking his cell phone, tell him exactly how you feel and that his "friend" needs to find another shoulder to cry on. A woman that tells a man that she "loves" him when she knows that he's already involved with someone else is looking for trouble. And, as stated before, you shouldn't talk to another man about your problems. You and your man have to resolve this situation between yourselves. I don't agree that it's ok to check each others cell phones, but if there's evidence that something might be going on, then do what you have to do to find out the truth.

first of all i think it is wrong to talk with your guy friend about your problems or what ever issues you guys discuss. you should beable to do that with your husband. my opionon is that you are talking with your guy friend about stuff is because your husband may lack the emtional part and the other guy gives you that emotional bonding, in which can cause problems, lets just say is like an emtional affair you are having, and than on the checking the phone cell issue, if it is your husband cells that you would like to check, you have no right he should be checking yours. the only reason you want to check his is if your guilty of something. the guilty always accuses. if you have conversation with your guy friend than why can your husband not have a emtional talk with another girl? hope that was not to forward.