Thread: need a shoulder to cry on

Originally Posted by sweet30s

I just moved to my birth country while my hubby is still in his birth country packing our stuff. Well the thing is that I got here 1 month ago and everyone told me that it takes about 5 months to get a job, I got 3 job offers in the last 2 weeks. I chose the one with the better future potential. Get very well paid, benefits all the good stuff. While I searched for a job I got my son in preschool and found a babysitter. Today I had orientation and Monday I begin my 7 week training. While on my way to drop off my son to preschool the sitter calls and cancels. SO I had to ask the preschool to keep him a bit longer while I got back. I just got of the phone with the sitter and she is moving out of town. I have to quit!!!!!! Today we were specifically told 2 days out during training and we are out. I can´t leave my son with just anyone! I have not been able to stop crying, and I wish my hubby was here, and I can´t get a hold of him and I just.............well I am miserable. This was my 1st job after giving birth and I was so excited to rebegin my career, I have missed working more than I ever thought I would. I just feel so horrible.

You're right. You can't leave your son with just anyone. Keep the faith. Don't give up. Explain to the people what happened, they may give you a break. Get recommendations for sitters form the preschool. Sometimes even the preschool workers moonlight for extra money. Just keep trying and it will all work out. GOOD LUCK and I wish much peace to you!

IT WILL BE OK!!! Keep your chin up and I agree with commonsense. Have them review your references. See if they can postpone your training classes. It will work out. Your hubby will be there soon. Be strong for your family and don't forget how special the people thought you were that gave you job offers so quickly. You will be ok.

thank you for your support, today was another tearful day, I have asked everyone for help on finding a sitter, as of right now no luck. I called the company that hired me and Ford Credit (the account) that I will be working for has only this training and that is it. To make matters worse my hubby and I spoke on the phone today and got into a huge argument of who is more miserable, the dumbest argument but very painful. He suggested that I send him our son since he is not working while I get situated here but in all honesty I can´t imagine spending 1 day without my baby. Let alone 3 months, which is when my hubby will get here. I want to stay positive and my grandma made me pray with her today but I am heartbroken that my chance might slip away to a very good company to work for.

There are so many good companies out there to work for. Something will work out. What about the other jobs that accepted you? Don't give up. At least your hubby isn't having the time of his life with out you... and vice versa! Chin up babe, there are people who care about you!

Originally Posted by sweet30s

thank you for your support, today was another tearful day, I have asked everyone for help on finding a sitter, as of right now no luck. I called the company that hired me and Ford Credit (the account) that I will be working for has only this training and that is it. To make matters worse my hubby and I spoke on the phone today and got into a huge argument of who is more miserable, the dumbest argument but very painful. He suggested that I send him our son since he is not working while I get situated here but in all honesty I can´t imagine spending 1 day without my baby. Let alone 3 months, which is when my hubby will get here. I want to stay positive and my grandma made me pray with her today but I am heartbroken that my chance might slip away to a very good company to work for.

You did a great thing by trying to help yourself find a sitter. Sometimes people come back to you later with information. It's obvious companies like you or you wouldn't have gotten any offers so soon. Just keep working on the sitter problem and then take another job. Also, there are a lot of "at home" businesses that you can do. For instance, you can keep a couple of kids in a "mini daycare". There are magazines with ideas for at home businesses. It just depends on what you want to do. Don't worry about the argument you had with your husband. You both are just stressed out. Maybe you could even consider just working part-time until he comes over and then work fill-time. When you feel down, just tell yourself "this is a temporary situation.. things are going to get better". Because they are. Life will always have a "hurdle" around the corner. You just have to keep jumping them!

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Keep the faith and hang in there!

Would it be possible to ask your grandmother to watch your child after preschool, at least until you find a good sitter? There is always a way, and I hope I don't sound preachy, but God will show you the way! He knows what is best for you, just have faith that He will help.

I hope things iron out for you!