pereli

My husband moved out 5 weeks ago, feels like 5 months ago. Said he wasn't "happy" or "in love wtih me anymore". As it turns out he's having an affair. It is such a painful, devastating, heartbreacking feeling. ..It makes me sick. I don't know what to do to make it feel better....

CHANDLERS WISH

I am sorry, i can not imagine how you are feeling...

Try not to spend to much time on your own, this is where family and friends play an important part in our lives...

I know people will disagree with me, maybe, here but sometimes people think the grass is greener on the other side when reality is it is only greener for a short while and then it vanishes... poof.... gone............

Just know your own self worth... Whislt it will hurt don't give up on believing in yourself and who you are.

Worse scenario, you will find someone even better in the future and live a better life than you did with him...

CW

TBS

i am so sorry to hear that! but she is totally right never lose touch of who you are. it may seem like this is the worse thing that has ever happened to(though it is horrible)this too will pass!! you just have to stay strong & know that hes the one who has lost something great here! even though he completly surprised you here just know that theres someone out there waiting on you that will treat you like the queen im sure you are! be strong & know that there are women out here ALWAYS willing to listen & give any helpful advice!!

minihaha

Hey there, I am sorry to hear this. It happened to me. My husband lied and said he just did not want to be married. turns out he had a girl who had 3 kids. sigh.....Sometimes men just dont make much sense
So now you are questioning your womanhood, and what you did wrong that you could not keep your man. Don't........You did not break your vows. I know men get tempted, but....he should have respected your marriage bond. He is acting like a human being right now and we are all falliable. With Gods grace he will realize that he is making a terrible mistake. You keep it movin.....take care of yourself. receive counseling if you think it will help you get through this rough period. I push counseling because sometimes through talking with friends and family, they get to hear your business but dont really give you the great advice that you really need. Also I found out after that a lot of so called friends and family already knew what he was doing before me. This to me is a time of prayer, reflection, pampering...anything that will help you heal holistically. Meaning, spritually, physically, emotionally, mentally! Get mad but please dont let it consume you. Dont let this situation shake your faith or break your spirit! Keep yourself attractive for you! Maybe switch up your routine a bit. Go to curves, join an art club or whatever you have time to do that interests you so that you can meet like minded people (new). Take a class, now is a good time to take that college class you thought about or sewing class. Adopt a pet. My cat was by my side hon, he seemed to instinctively know how I felt! In other words, take time for yourself doing positive things for yourself. Be a little selfish. This storm will pass and you will come out stronger. Keep praying for your marriage too. The devil is a bald faced, ugly, weird, smelly liar! Keep your humour too, it helps. I'll be praying for you and your family. peace and blessings, minihaha

CHANDLERS WISH

One thing i have read over and over here... To add..

He would have been in love with you at some time right?

Perhaps your relationship went into that " friendship stage"

Some woman sassied into his life, offered more? Will she get bored, not trust him later? I mean he left you for her, can she trust him?

Is he going into a "childhood fantasy" lust?

Sure, the grass shows greener on the other side, but for how long?

Will she tire of him? The adventure gone?

Will he come crawling back?

Think on these things and if you would consider having him back when the "bow breaks" and crumbles.

TIme sometimes is the essense. Let things run their course.

What you haven't said, is how long you were married, how it was up until, where it was at sexually.

In my opinion "nothing is over until it's over"...

CW

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Women are Angels
And when someone breaks our wings....
We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick...

We are flexible like that ....
White Witch.


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