This thread is an offshoot of the one about "what turns you on" and the one about pegging and fisting.

And it is mainly directed towards couples in mature established relationships, and probably "over 30." If you are "under 30" you probably have not had time yet to try everything on your wish list.

Are there things that you would like to try with your partner but haven't? If so, what are they, and more importantly (I think) WHY have you not tried them? Too embarassed to ask? You know absolutely that your partner would never want to try it. (That's for all the mind-readers out there. )

It took me a long time to get up the courage to even hint to my partner that I wanted to try pegging and fisting. I was too embarassed and thought she would think I was sick. Turns out we love both activities alot. Not all the time of course, but they are now part of our "bag of tricks" that we can draw on when we are both in the mood.

I'm not really so interested in WHAT it is that you have not asked your partner to try, but the REASON for not asking your partner.

And maybe those of you out there who have learned to be more open in communicating your wishes to your partner can help the others by sharing your "tricks of the trade" in finding ways to communicate very private things to your partner.

And I do stress TRY. Hey, you may not like it and thus take it off the wish list. But at least you will have tried. Sort of like eating sushi.

Come on boys and girls, let's hear from you.

(If this subject has already been covered in another thread - I looked but did not find anything - then a moderators can tell me and we close this thread. But, Ms. Moderator, you can only do that if you first answer my question.)

This thread does not belong in the sex category; I'm moving it to Girl Talk.
Please remember, everyone, that questions under the Sex category should be things you feel comfortable talking to a medical professional about. Read the sticky before posting if you have any questions.

I am older but our relationship is fairly new....Second marriages and all. Here is a shocker! When we are a little older yet and together a while...Maybe in ten years....I might like to try a FMF threesome! Of course, it may just remain a fantasy! LOL

Little,

Oops, sorry. Honestly. Will read more carefully next time.

Little,

I believe owlhunter was talking about things to try in the bed! Sure does sound like sex to me.

Or maybe it is my "sick" mind

Well....I sort of look at the bondage stuff from a save distance from the moment.

Main reason I did not propose to my DH yet is.. hmm... I am not sure yet how far I wanno go that path.

Owlhunter,

If I am correct you did not mention what you did not dare to propose to your lady!
Hey play it fair! ha ha

I will go with your verdict of number (2) Can't Imagine Owlhunter going to his Doctor with those questions it would sound more like an "indecent proposal"

But i do agree, why pose questions Owlhunter unless you can start it off with your own....



CW

Hey, you ladies are a tough crowd.

Yes, I was talking about sexual things, not where you might like to go on vacation.

A couple of the things I'd like to try were on her "Never Ever" list that she detailed at the very beginning of our relationship. Since they were on that list there was no point in asking. The list was quite short and I was not about to complain.

As I said in the previous post (I think) it took me a long time to get up the courage to suggest pegging and fisting. The reason was that I feared she would think i was really sicko. She is a very broad minded woman but I still had that fear.

Up until I started my relationship with her I was even afraid to suggest anal with a woman becuase I thoguht she would think of me as a "bad" person if i even asked. Yes, I know I have issues about my self-image.

I honestly can't think of anything at the moment that I/we want to try that has not already been discussed. We have not done them all yet because we normally get distracted by the fun of our routine sex things that we then forget to say, No, tonight we must absolutely try this!

Plus neither of us is that young, I'm just over 60, she is mid 50s. So after 4 to 5 hours in bed (or elsewhere) we really have to give our bodies a break before we can continue. I'm honestly try to get in better shape (I've sort of let this old body go to pot) so that I don't wear our so quickly. She is like the Energizer Bunny. She only says stop after 10/12 O's. But give her 30 minutes and she is ready to start again. Except for fisting. The Os from fisting are so intense she can only handle 5 or 6 and then she begs me to stop. She just cannot stand the insensity any longer. She comes very close to passing out - and that scares me.

Anyway - the REASON I have, in the past, been afraid to ask/suggest certain things to partners was because I feared they would think I was a "bad person." And that all derives from serious self image problems I had. (Still have, but am much better now, after lots of professional help, and the help of a wonderful woman).

There, now will you ladies cut me a little slack?