Thread: What Would You Like to Try - But Haven't - Established Couples Only.

Hey, you ladies are a tough crowd.

Yes, I was talking about sexual things, not where you might like to go on vacation.

A couple of the things I'd like to try were on her "Never Ever" list that she detailed at the very beginning of our relationship. Since they were on that list there was no point in asking. The list was quite short and I was not about to complain.

As I said in the previous post (I think) it took me a long time to get up the courage to suggest pegging and fisting. The reason was that I feared she would think i was really sicko. She is a very broad minded woman but I still had that fear.

Up until I started my relationship with her I was even afraid to suggest anal with a woman becuase I thoguht she would think of me as a "bad" person if i even asked. Yes, I know I have issues about my self-image.

I honestly can't think of anything at the moment that I/we want to try that has not already been discussed. We have not done them all yet because we normally get distracted by the fun of our routine sex things that we then forget to say, No, tonight we must absolutely try this!

Plus neither of us is that young, I'm just over 60, she is mid 50s. So after 4 to 5 hours in bed (or elsewhere) we really have to give our bodies a break before we can continue. I'm honestly try to get in better shape (I've sort of let this old body go to pot) so that I don't wear our so quickly. She is like the Energizer Bunny. She only says stop after 10/12 O's. But give her 30 minutes and she is ready to start again. Except for fisting. The Os from fisting are so intense she can only handle 5 or 6 and then she begs me to stop. She just cannot stand the insensity any longer. She comes very close to passing out - and that scares me.

Anyway - the REASON I have, in the past, been afraid to ask/suggest certain things to partners was because I feared they would think I was a "bad person." And that all derives from serious self image problems I had. (Still have, but am much better now, after lots of professional help, and the help of a wonderful woman).

There, now will you ladies cut me a little slack?

Hi owlhunter,

you sound cool! wow!

but..... you left me dying from curiosity here...

the list, dear man, the list.....

what was on there that you wanted and did not dare ask for..

hey, I am a woman, I maybe curious!!!

Originally Posted by muskito

Hi owlhunter,

you sound cool! wow!

but..... you left me dying from curiosity here...

the list, dear man, the list.....

what was on there that you wanted and did not dare ask for..

hey, I am a woman, I maybe curious!!!

Hmm, located in France but obviously have English as a mother tongue. Hmmm Which department? Tell a little. No no no, i do not want to make contact. Just interested. S**t, you could be my ex-partner! Wouldn't that be funny!!!

OK, I will resist the temptation to tease you. Why is it I love to tease women?

One of the things on the list was "no other people." There is NO WAY I would like to involve another man. But, if my SO was or had bi tendancies, I would seriously consider another woman. But only in this way, for the other woman and myself to BOTH at the same time try to bring pleasure to her.

I do NOT want two woman to work on me. That is not a fantasy of mine. But for two people (myself and someone else) to entertain my SO is something I would consider. And since there is no way I'm going to willing let another guy touch her, then the only other choice is a woman.

But this is completely off limits to her. Wait, off limits is not the right term. She finds "repulsive" the thought of a woman touching her. She has no problem with lesbians, (or gays either) has good friends who are lesbians, but is not at all interested in going down that path herself.

That is the item from the list. Would I actually go through with it if offerred the opportunity, not sure. If it was something she WANTED to try, then I certainly would be willing to give it a try. It is on her NEVER EVER list (which is very short!) but not on mine.

Another guy is on my NEVER EVER list.

And I am not a "wild and crazy guy" - actually I can be a pretty boring old fart. But I have also found out the hiding inside me is someone who is willing to "try" a pretty broad range of things. I do not have issues with my masculinity, but I'm certainly not "macho." Just comfortable with that side of my personality. Other sides of my personality are pretyy f***** up and filled with issues. And I don't think I'm as cool as you may think I am.

There you are now! Hey, turn about is fair play. What about you? Come on - tell the truth. No purjury allowed!

I happen to notice that some of the big-time regular posted are being VERY quiet (as in - invisible) on this thread.

How do you send a mass mailing telling them all to stop being so quiet and tell us the truth!