Dear lord that was a weird behaviour for the link...I didn't type it all in that way. Anyway, click it and it'll take you there.
You can check out Dan Savage's podcasts at Savage Love Podcast | Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions on the Internets. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, call 206-201-2720. The Stranger | Seattle's Only Newspaper. There's currently 96 of them so it was a little beyond my ability to listen to them all again to find the ones that discuss the madonna/ problem. But seriously, almost all of the episodes are hilarious and educational in some way so I suggest listening to them all. But the website gives a synopsis of each episode so you should be able to find what you want.