Annette
Junior Member

Hi Annette,
How have you been? I hope everything is better for you...best luck. Jenny

Hi-

Thanks so much - I could definitely use someone to vent to. I am sorry for your situation as well. What is wrong with these men?

We are not actually living apart yet. He travels a lot so we aren't together all the time. We also have a weekend house in the mountains so are spending some time apart on the weekends. We do end up in the same place most of the time though which probably doesn't help.

I am not sure why I haven't kicked him out except that I feel like if I do I am just handing him over on a silver platter to her and I want him to be the one that has to make the decision to leave. I can tell he does at least feel bad/guilty about leaving and hurting me and I want him to feel as much pain as possible before he leaves as vindictive as that sounds.

I will be more than happy to listen to you as well if you need me to. My e-mail is wtk5471gmail.com if you want to catch me there.

Thanks and take care.

Hi Annette,
I am truly sorry for what you are going through! I am going through something similar..I am 31 years old, I have three kids,married for 8 1/2 years and he tells me he wants to separate, a few weeks later I found a 24 year old in my bed (the bosses daughter-no less)! I also am starting over from scratch. My entire life feels like its fallen apart and I can't seem to even breath somedays, it has been 3 months now..I have lost 30 lbs and when I start crying I can't seem to stop. I also feel lke I have never done anything to deserve what is happening to me right now! This is the hardest thing, next to losing a family member that I've ever been through...the only thing I try to do is stay positive and tell myself that this year is going to be a lot better to me, I refuse to get kicked down and stay down!
How are you coping are you living apart?
if you need to vent or just need a friend I will listen.