Hi Pims, thanks for posting your agreement to my 'theory'. Like depression, you can't understand unless you've been there yourself. All we can do about the past now is to make sure we break the cycle for our children's sake. Don't want to preach but please make sure your daughter knows from as early as possible that she's special and valued, trusted, loved and respected and that no man is worthy of her haha! She may very well make the same mistakes you did, but at least you will have done your best to prevent that. I have a son and feel that there's less to worry about than with a daughter but I'm sure we'll all still make mistakes. As long as we learn from them though eh?