Hi rcoreyus, I'm new on this forum, and came across some of your posts. It seems like we may have some marital/wife issues in common. Do you mind an unsolicited book recommendation? ... Married 3.5 yrs, wife lost interest in sex after our first baby. 2 years of gridlock followed, with frequent arguments & hurt feelings. We recently found "The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting your marriage libido--A couple's guide" by Michelle Weiner-Davis, a sex therapist who works with "desire-discrepant" couples. My wife and I are reading separately--to my surprise she's been really open to it. It supports the perspectives of both spouses, while challenging some beliefs as well. It also aims to help couples more effectively communicate. We're still working through the book's recommendations. So far so good--I think she and I are breaking through the communication barrier. If the book sounds interesting, check out other opinions--Amazon has numerous reviews. Best wishes-- jss2000
