versatile9
Junior Member

Hello! Sorry I didn't get to read on here for a while... Of course you are feeling terrible, but you know...I second what Little said in her post (the one she wrote today). While you are not exactly "innocent" your husband probably feels betrayed by his friend rather than you. I know that is how my husband would feel... To me it seems like you are very much in love with each other, so you will get through this. At least he knows that he can trust you- after all you told him the truth and you are sorry. Right? You did not want that to happen... He can see that...and he needs your help now. He has lost a friend...that hurts. In a way it is as if that friend had died. Just show him how much you love him. Listen to him and answer all of his questions, even if he asks you the same things over and over again. Be patient...hold him...and give him that special feeling of being at home. Stay strong- you are in my thoughts. Drop me a line whenever you feel like it.

NO. If there is some sentence you would like removed, I will do that. I will NOT NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU ASK remove the whole thread.

I have already given you the answer: No. I will not delete the thread.

Dear Versatile,
We do not delete advice threads on this site. I have looked it over and don't see anything that could identify you. If there are certain sentences you would like taken out, we can discuss that.
Thank you for understanding.

Well, some guys don't need "leverage". Sad but true... Don't beat yourself up about it. You probably did encourage him a bit by staying and listening, but that's no excuse for him. I hope the talk with your husband will go well...I'm keeping you in my thoughts. Just be very honest and tell him everything you told us. He needs to hear all of that from you- before his "friend" gets the idea to call him and tell him things that are not true. You never know... Your husband loves you. He will be pretty shocked, but he knows you and I'm sure if you tell him about your true feelings he will understand and forgive you.

I note that you have already contacted Little, she will reply when she can.

Hi! I didn't want to put this in your thread...but I understand how you feel. After all this man is one of your husband's best friends...I don't know. I would have been pretty shocked, and while I know I wouldn't have let him kiss me have let him kiss me I'm not sure if I, too, wouldn't just have sat there thinking, oh my gosh, instead of walking out. Don't be too hard on yourself, though. You still love your husband, right, so talk to him and then put this behind you and learn from it. Have a great day!