I'm 30 so sex is something that has just always been ok to talk about. Not in my Christian home, but it didn't deter me. lol It is um...kinda depressing to read about people not wanting sex, with real live people. AND women who have NEVER had an orgasm, wow, that is still a shocker. I don't think I've ever heard of any guy having NEVER had and 'O'. Gosh how that must suck. Especially for the women out there who spend a great deal of time trying to achieve it. Your new business is a trip. Dee has gone to a few parties her bf host where, I don't know, 'toys' are sold? lol thats funny to me. Just pops into my mind of a backdrop for a lez porn video. Because obviously no guys are allowed. She never comes home with anything, but she says she has fun.
You are doing your part in loving and caring about your wife's pleasure and your daughter's upbringing. I had no idea how many women had never had an orgasm, didn't want sex, or couldn't even really talk about it, until a few years ago when I really started paying attention. This site has been quite an education. This weekend I had a sales event (I'm in the process of starting a business selling - what else?- Kegelmasters. I had a woman buy one for a family member who desperately needed help with incontinence. She couldn't bring herself to talk about it to me or on the phone to the family member without cupping her hand over her mouth. I have a hard time believing that is woman who is comfortable with her body, touching or sex. Sadly there are a lot of them like that. A couple years ago a freind said to me, "I'm so glad I'm 50, I never have to have sex again!" WT? I don't know why 50, I'm over 50 and no intention to stop!
As for, "getting women out of the sexual dark ages and into the light of loving and owning their bodies and pleasure". That's too much for one person to take on. Not to disappoint you, but I have enough to deal with in MY relationship. Marriage is a full time commitment. I have to think about her feelings, my actions, then add in the kids and jobs and everything financially. I cant say I do anything to help that situation, but I certainly don't do anything to halt it. And of all the girls I know, I don't really think a single one of them fall into this heading. Am I qualified to judge this unequivocally, no. I mean, you see the questions I have with my own daughter, but there is nothing readily apparent. Is it a real problem, yeah, that's not what I'm saying. Its that I would have to go outside my normal comfort zone to find this. I guess I just take a blind eye towards it. Am I pathetic, I don't care, I just want me and my wife to love each other and get along and to be happy.
Your right, the availability of porn is altering how sex is.....is......its altering how sex IS. If I'm not getting it from you, I will get it from porn. If your not around, I will get it from porn. If I am too tired to have sex but still want it, I will get it from porn. If your being a butt, I will get it from porn. Its all too easy to pick up the laptop and go to a free porn site and choose what you want at the moment. Growing up, porn was not something that was around for me or my close friends. Small town, no where to get porn, Christian background, I had a 'nasty' mag I got somewhere but not it was not just available everywhere. When I got married and we moved to a big town there were porn shops, and we went a couple of times, but it was weird. Without the internet, most likely I would be clueless. But it IS here, and its easy to get to and its free. It will never be the same. Humans will have to find a way to deal with it.
I agree the majority of men jack off. If they don't there is probably something wrong, t he same could be said of women. What we are seeing with porn is something new in human history. Humans have alwasy created drawings and images, but they weren't widely available until the printing press and that was limited.With photography actual images became available and film allowed action but it was not readily accessible. The VCR created a rapid expansion but internet caused an explosion. Not only is porn readily availible but the scope of material is unlimited. Levels of kink that were highly obscure are now readily available to a world wide audience.
In the US at least, that, combined with our strange pseudo Puritanical attutudes towards our bodies and sex, has created a purient facination for porn that is altering lives and relationships. Although uncredentialed, I think I could write a book on the subject - it is facinating. What it is doing to relationships is very damaging. In my last relationship, on the rare occasions he wanted me rather than his hand, I was just a mastabatory tool.
The combination of women and men who are out of touch with their bodies and feelings, the social/religious restrictions and inhibitions and the over sexualization of sex (its the act that counts more than the interaction or mutual pleasure) I think may be slowing down the process of getting women out of the sexual dark ages and into the light of loving and owning their bodies and pleasure. Of course the idea of owning another within a relationship is also a problem. But if two people are going to agree to restrict each others sexual access, they really shouldn't then be denighing it. It's a mess.
Most of the women complaining on here didn't "allow" their SO to view porn. And yeah you were tryin to let him explore, how were you to know it would go there? That's the thing, it was not intentional, but turned in to another problem all together. But you didn't want to be just a regular lover right? See, you were being a good m8. So. To the fellas coming into a relationship, should they hide it? If they are open about it, most likely it won't be a problem. Honestly I believe every guy jacksoff. They are hiding it and can control it and it never becomes a problem. Its just that random guy that really is/becomes addicted to it and it's a shame, he didn't want this.
Porn has to do with it in that he went from being a caring, attentive lover to literally, take your clothes off and lets do it, as his porn usage went up. Admittedly that was partially my fault for not drawing the line sooner. I am quiet capable of handling that kind of sexual situation, I understand many women require a great deal of foreplay for any sex any time. I allowed him the opportunity to explore several things he thought he wanted. Most he dropped in short period of time. Porn really wasn't the issue but objectifying me as his partner was.
