My co=worker is going thru Menopause, How do I treat her?

lpochina805 · 07-28-2009, 09:51 AM

I have a co-worker that is going thru menopause. She is being trained by me for her job. I am in my early 20's. When she makes a mistake I try to correct her in the nicest way possible. Trust me I am super nice to her. She is very sensitive and when being ask what's wrong she has an emotional break down. She told me that she is going thru menopause now. I really don't know how to treat her. If I am correcting her I make her cry, if I am nice I still make her cry. What can I do, Please help.

**WildChild** · 07-28-2009, 10:56 AM

Try to make a joke out if it. Her hormones are out of wack and I've noticed that the more stressed and unhappy a woman is generally the more trouble she'll have with this.

**Sandra_does** · 08-07-2009, 06:15 AM

Yours is a rough position at this point and I do hope the job you are training her for can deal with an emotional person.

It's quite obvious she has more than menopause on her mind if so quick to become an emotional bunch of over-reactions...

As you have already tried sympathy and pasifying the situation and neither works, it's obvious you alone must consider her ability for future performance with regards to her job ...and... her ability to get along with co-workers...

As her trainer, this is part of your function as well...

None of us girls look forward to menopause as we fear the change will destroy our marriage as well as our ability to feel and to perform as a woman...

This is not true for all women, but none of us can be sure until we get there... Because your trainee is hyper-emotional, her fears multiply. What she needs is more confidence in conversation with her GYN and to have conversation with her own friends of her own age where she will receive trusted words and understandings based upon experience or at least being parallel to her existing situation...

That is not your position as triner but it would not hurt a bit if you did take her aside and explain your own feelings regarding her new job and that she does need to talk with someone better qualified than you that can help her drive away her fears of menopause... A GYN is better qualified with this, be sure of that...

Good luck, you certainly need it...

Sandra_does...

07-28-2009, 09:51 AM	#1
lpochina805 Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: california Posts: 8	My co=worker is going thru Menopause, How do I treat her? I have a co-worker that is going thru menopause. She is being trained by me for her job. I am in my early 20's. When she makes a mistake I try to correct her in the nicest way possible. Trust me I am super nice to her. She is very sensitive and when being ask what's wrong she has an emotional break down. She told me that she is going thru menopause now. I really don't know how to treat her. If I am correcting her I make her cry, if I am nice I still make her cry. What can I do, Please help. __________________ Why does love hurt so much?

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07-28-2009, 10:56 AM	#2
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,223 Blog Entries: 5	Try to make a joke out if it. Her hormones are out of wack and I've noticed that the more stressed and unhappy a woman is generally the more trouble she'll have with this.

08-07-2009, 06:15 AM	#3
Sandra_does VIP Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 74	Yours is a rough position at this point and I do hope the job you are training her for can deal with an emotional person. It's quite obvious she has more than menopause on her mind if so quick to become an emotional bunch of over-reactions... As you have already tried sympathy and pasifying the situation and neither works, it's obvious you alone must consider her ability for future performance with regards to her job ...and... her ability to get along with co-workers... As her trainer, this is part of your function as well... None of us girls look forward to menopause as we fear the change will destroy our marriage as well as our ability to feel and to perform as a woman... This is not true for all women, but none of us can be sure until we get there... Because your trainee is hyper-emotional, her fears multiply. What she needs is more confidence in conversation with her GYN and to have conversation with her own friends of her own age where she will receive trusted words and understandings based upon experience or at least being parallel to her existing situation... That is not your position as triner but it would not hurt a bit if you did take her aside and explain your own feelings regarding her new job and that she does need to talk with someone better qualified than you that can help her drive away her fears of menopause... A GYN is better qualified with this, be sure of that... Good luck, you certainly need it... Sandra_does...