Thread: A Cry For Help From A Mothers Son...

I want to state upfront that I am a MALE and I apologize from the bottom of my heart if I offend anyone for joining a women's health forum. However I read a few of the posts and felt very comfortable sharing my story with you.

I am 34 years old and I write to you because I love my mother.

I have found out through life that the greatest and most honorable title in life is being a woman. Women have the ability to crumble a man where he stands just from one glance to giving birth and creating life. That's what I learned from my wife.

However women have the ability to become a Mother. A caring and loving gentle soul who does everything and anything to make sure her children are safe and happy. That's what I learned from my mommy.

I am writing because I miss my mommy and I think menopause is to blame.

Over the years my parents always had a rocky relationship. But my mom, dad and sister always got through the worst times unscathed. Eventually I met my beautiful and wonderful wife and I moved out of the house with my parents blessing and good wishes. However my parents would miss me. I live in the same county so I visit and the 20 minute drive is no problem. My sister still lived at home and eventually would be going to school in another state. However still nearby.

This is the time menopause (MP) kicked in.

The combination of my sister now leaving the house and MP made my mother very upset. She would have mood swings and this would cause my parents to argue.

Again. Still unscathed.

Graduation Day!

My sister moved back home and all was well. I was still visiting and things were better than usual. But not living there everyday made me miss a few details. MP was still there and now my sister was planning on moving far away. Like NY to CA far. My mommy would be losing my daughter again but unlike her son a visit couldn't be cured with a 20 minute drive.

I would like to introduce you to alcohol.

My mommy has been very depressed and soon began to have a few or more than a few glasses of wine every night. This elevates all of her fears and worries. The worst part about this is over the weekend I was not only made aware of this issue but also for the first time saw her in a state that was not my mommy. This person seemed scared, angry, helpless and empty. My heart was wrenched and twisted from this and I stayed there all night until she slept off the wine. She told me that her depression from the MP is overcoming her life and she does not know how to handle it other than with alcohol.

So I now come to the experts. I want to help my mother and also educate anyone else that may be in this situation that seems so kicked-to-the-side. I would like to know what type of doctor I need to take her to and what medications or treatments can help her with her mood swings and depression? Also how long does it last?

I want to thank you for your time and hopefully for your guidance. Again I am sorry to "invade" your forums as a man but I only trust answers from the source. I wish the best to all of you.