Please help...42 in perimenopause?

**misskyagirl** · 11-20-2011 08:10 AM

Any thoughts...suggestions would be much appreciated....

I am 42...I haven't slept through a night in about two years now. Before that I slept like a baby. When I am laying down and turn around I get dizzy or get up I get dizzy. Those are the only times though...that has been for the last two months.

I have had two UTI and have never had one in my life until the last six months.

I have had a regular period my whole life until now...I had it about three weeks ago for the normal time and then it came back two weeks later and it is still continuing and I don't see anything stopping.

I cried yesterday morning for no apparent reason except all of these things that are going on with my body...I feel fat, disgusting, and just a mess. My husband to be just held me and let me let it out and I did feel better after that...

I workout five to six days a week which seems to help, but I am just at a loss as to what the heck is going on here!

To add to the list I don't think I am having hot flashes because everybody says that it is horrible and your sweating profusely....well I haven't had that, but I wake up in bed at night because I am hot, but not sweating a lot...just enough to throw the covers off me and then I get cold and they go back on...

If I never had sex again I would be fine...which is not normal...

As I even write this I want to cry...I have an appt with my gyno on the 28th I wish I could go sooner...the crazy part is that I will probably still have my period and at this point I don't care...I need to talk to somebody and I have a great doctor so I am happy about that...

I didn't think I would have these issues at 42, and am confused and scared about this whole process....a few years back I had to have emergency surgery for an infection in my uterus/fallopian tubes etc...pretty bad...now I wish I had told my gyno to take it all out!!

I am sorry if I am rambling but I am just a mess!

**caterpillar79** · 11-20-2011 08:27 AM

It's okay to feel that way, my dear. I experienced such symptoms and I was only 31 when I felt it (I'm 32 now). My OB-GYN had me do some hormone test. It's a saliva collection kit that I had to fill every morning according to the scheduled time. This is in order for the lab to see my hormonal pattern and if there are fluctuations, etc. I turned it all in after the collection period, which is 1 month (my entire cycle) and after 3 weeks, I got my results. Sure enough, I need some hormone therapy because between my 28th - 4oth-ish days of my cycle, I have fluctuations. Hence the hot flashes, emotional roller coaster, trouble sleeping at night, depression and all that icky stuff.

Tell you what though, I refused to hormone therapy flat out. My doc "scolded" me (in a loving way) but I stayed firm. She had me on high soy diet and regular exercise, also gave me some vitamin supplements. Right now, I feel better but when I do have the fluctuations, I am sort of ready to deal with it, plus, my husband does his best to help me.

I understand your frustration, you're scared of the unknown and at the same time, not ready for this - who wants this?! Nobody does! But it's that time...it's coming....brace yourself and love yourself. I know it's difficult especially now that you don't know yet what's really going on.

Did you have a partial hysterectomy then (did I catch that right)? If that's the case, your hormone levels need to be checked. Hugs....and take care. We're here for you.

You can share with us whatever you are thinking, feeling.

Here is an example of that. Read on....

http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...e-journal.html

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-20-2011 01:07 PM

You're definately not alone sweetheart.

I'm 48 and I experienced that two years ago, fortunately when I miss a couple of months now, I get irritable, and my Fiance suggests it's on it's way

I laugh.

We have to, you have to, deep breathing, keep excersising, drink alot of water and decide after your hormones are checked, what you want to do..

I am like you Cat, only I never went to get the blood test, don't want to know lols... But, I don't want any hormone replacement therapy and grow wiskers on my face

**caterpillar79** · 11-20-2011 02:40 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

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I am like you Cat, only I never went to get the blood test, don't want to know lols... But, I don't want any hormone replacement therapy and grow wiskers on my face

LOL! The beautiful white witch with her whiskers...err, beard?! LMAO!

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-20-2011 02:52 PM

LOL'S HECK NO

**caterpillar79** · 11-20-2011 08:44 PM

In the link I included my reply earlier, I read that WC said that some lovin' (sex) actually helps alleviate symptoms. I agree with her based on my experience (that's actually how active of a role my hubby plays). In addition to that, I do my best to not be needy because that just drives my man away.

Hence, the better you hold yourself by being secure, the more lovin' you'll get...and the more lovin' you get, the better you'll feel.

**misskyagirl** · 11-21-2011 05:14 PM

Thank you! I will try that! I'm sure he won't complain....and I am very fortunate to have a man in my life who may not understand what I am going through, but will help in anyway he can!