Thread: Struggling Newbie

Hi All. I am new to this site and posted this message in the "introduce youself" form - but it probably belongs here. My name is Nancy. I am 46 years old and just found out that I am in the full swing of menopause. This has come as a complete shock to me. Looking back, I have had symptoms for a while but ignored them because I thought I was too young. I have never had children but have always wanted them (unfortunately I chose the wrong men so never married). I am devastated. Although I know 46 is old to have a child, I was still hopeful. Now all hope is lost. I do not want to adopt a child as a single parent. I see a therapist and psychiatrist for depression and have for years - so I take meds. This revelation has completely thrown me for a loop. I feel suddenly feel old (an constantly told I look closer to 30 than 40), sad, washed-up, etc. Can anyone relate and perhaps offer some words of wisdom? Thanks for listening. xoxo

Hiya Newbie. That must have been awful situation to deal with mentally. I hope you are feeling a little lighter with it now. The only advice I can offer is to say that I have learned 'what we focus on becomes real' and if we focus on it too much and its negative we get depressed. It becomes a downward spiral. Perhaps you could find something where you could share your love with children in need. There are so many of them in the world today who have never had love. I cant imagine growing up without love. I think Mother Theresa said one of the biggest poverties in the world was a lack of love. Take your love to the child. It needs you and people like you who have something to offer....a little bit of kind humanity.