Thread: i am about to lose it.

Trialbyfire...I'm guessing if my wife was in your situation, she'd probably have (what we call in the south) a HISSIE FIT! Then she'd probably start crying, and somehow I'd figure out how to make her laugh it off. I'd probably do that crazy Marty Feldman-like thing with my eyes...or something that would take her away from the HECK she was enduring at the moment...or maybe not, but I'd at least give it a try.

Probably the biggest thing to counteract all of what you're feeling is to find a way to really laugh at something. I mean something so doggone funny, you just can't help but laugh at it. Whatever you really think is funny, then involve yourself in that for a short while. That should make you feel better (at least a little).

Another thing is to go to a pet store and hang around the puppies for a while. It's hard to feel like killing somebody when you just had a puppy go to sleep in your arms and you see that sweetness.

Anyway, I did mean what I said - when I said that I'd be your friend. And as far as being full of Jesus, I'm really not (although I'd like to be in some ways). I just thought that maybe He was the one who had me respond to your post.

Cheers! <~~~I mean that too! Maybe you need a little drinky-poo?!?!

Originally Posted by Fire(m)

as far as being full of Jesus, I'm really not (although I'd like to be in some ways).

Hahaha, the way I read that....... ho ho ho.

Chandler,

I don't drink and can't really stand alcohol; makes me sleepy and . But I can, on the other hand, really get into a valium when it gets too rough.

The print changing sizes was probably all the energy emanating from one of my hot flashes, pulsing even. They seem to be going away as I get into this over the counter estravan thing. Hopefully they'll stay away, too.

Thanks for your support.

And fire,

I do have two cats here, both are pretty affectionate. One of them is overly affectionate, so I hang on to him when it gets rough. I'm not married, and have no significant other, so they'll do for now. I try to laugh at all of this and make jokes about Karma; this all must be my karma coming back at me for thinking PMS was just something we women made up as an excuse for acting out. I never really suffered from PMS. Karma.

Thanks, I'll consider you a new friend.

Hi Trialbyfire, thanks for making me feel I have a sister out there who is going through some of the symptoms I've been experiencing. My mood swings have been awful with a capital A and I irrational becomes my middle name when the old hormones start swinging. I'm 48 and have been told I'm perimenopausal from the result of a blood test a couple of months ago after missing a period in July. The hot flushes are truly awful and come on at the most inconvenient of times/places. At the moment I'm feeling quite normal and my moods are on an even keel. Unfortunately it's like turning on a switch and they can turn at any time. Mental Health isn't the issue, the hormones are imbalanced and have a significant impact on emotional wellbeing. I'm taking herbal rememdies, evening primrose and black cohosh and giving them a few months to kick in.
Shame you took the responses to be negative. I was amused by your post and reading it gave me a much needed chuckle. I think you've been a bit misinterpreted and I'm on your side. Like you, I went through some bad times which knocks the stuffing out of you but be strong, keep going and you'll get through.
Good Luck and keep posting,

Lilian59 xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Originally Posted by trialbyfire

these aren't hot flashes - it's the tongue of satan, tormenting me. i feel like someone has imprisoned me into a world where unseen forces play games by roasting me over an open bbq simply for their pleasure. i'm single, never married, never wanted children and never had children so i've always debated with my own body over why i had to have a menstrual cycle to begin with since i planned to never have kids or to require the services of ovulation.

i know i am going to sound like a raving lunatic and that is because for the time being that is exactly what i am! a raving, roasting, fatigued, irritated, despondent lunatic, capable of misfiring her mouth in the wrong direction at some innocent person one minute, crying for hours over it the next, and then spending ridiculous amounts of money on ebay the next. i am a self centered, neurotic mess at the present time!

i have an appointment with a gyno in the next few weeks. i don't want to take hormones. i just turned 46. at 44 i was a victim of an assault. a few months later my menstrual cycle stopped, both shoulders froze, i lost my beloved cat, and life changed forever. i know that things can never be the same but i would like to stop being roasted like a piece of sizzling beef and find some peace before i do damage!

ps. i notice there is no laughing devil icon, which i could really use right now to help illustrate my torment.

I was also a victom of an assault. I totally understand how you feel. I have been going thru perimenapause for the past 10 years and now in menapause and not really sure what's going on in my mind. Crazy.

Originally Posted by anonymouswhitefemale

Hahaha, the way I read that....... ho ho ho.

??? I don't get it.

Originally Posted by trialbyfire

Chelsea, from your lovely photo one might gather you're all of 23 years old, if that. So I have to ask; why are you over on this board giving me advice about how to behave if you haven't gone through the thing I'm complaining about?

I don't have to answer to you. My comment wasn't directed toward you. For me, it's that simple.

WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So I am 34 and in surgical menopause(which I might add is scientifically proven to be WORSE than natural) and when I read your post I had two thoughts...

1. I feel for ya...hot flashes and night sweats have kept me awake all night for almost a yr...

2. You sound like you may need some mental help...

Me, I'm not embarrassed one bit to say my meno has led me through some that I finally had to get help....But far be it for someone to say that to you apparently!